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"...Where the Spirit of YHWH is, there is liberty,"

2 Corinthians 3:17 RNKJV

Driven by an obsession to live up to higher standards, some churches and religious groups turn to abusive practices as a means to control their members and stifle dissent. Over time, their leaders typically blame the members for their own failures and lack of progress while covering up their own deficiencies. By playing on the fears members have of losing their salvation, these spiritual abusers are able to hold their congregations under the sway of their manipulation. Threatening eternal damnation in Gehenna (hell) fire to anyone who leaves the church is often the chief means they use to keep members under their thumbs.

When independent churches and fundamentalist religious organizations turn from "the straight and narrow" of sound Biblical practice into the wayward direction of excessive authoritarian control or peculiar behavioral cultishness, look for corruption in high places -- namely, in the words and actions of their leaders. A pronounced love of money, the root of all kinds of evil, likely also is involved.

As the Messiah pointed out to the unscrupulous, judgmental Pharisees of His time, corruption typically manifests itself as the leaven of hypocrisy and double standards. Many of the religious leaders of this age are no different, or perhaps are even worse. Likened by the Messiah to whited sepulchers, like the white church building in the background on this site, they may appear pure and devout, but inwardly are full of filth and corruption. This document seeks to expose their spiritual leaven, using the pronouncements of the Scriptures to reveal their corrupt behavior for what it is: spiritual abuse.

Perhaps the primary tell-tale sign of this corruption is hatred, the hallmark of spiritual abuse. Sadly, the hatred toward one's neighbors can become so obsessive that the infected church can degenerate into a pernicious hate group, wherein anyone in disagreement may find themselves regularly denigrated by their church leaders. In time, the entire church contracts this malignant mindset. A "cult-like paranoia" often consumes these leaders and their followers, which can lead to tragic outcomes. Those who attempt to sound the alarm against such hatred, including this author, are routinely disparaged so as to redirect others' attention away from the problem.

So-called Bible churches or groups built on a Scriptural foundation that feature many of the tell-tale signs or indicators of spiritual abuse listed below should be regarded with caution and suspicion. Behind each sign of possible abuse may be tales that tell of the mistreatment and manipulation of the innocents at the hands of conniving and controlling church leaders -- the ravenous wolves among the flocks of believers in the end times of whom the authors of the latter books of the Bible forewarned us.

Many believers with a craving for greater Scriptural knowledge are drawn to such organizations, also called D.R.U.G.s -- Dangerous Religious Unconventional Groups. Captivated by the lure of receiving hidden teachings, they unwittingly exchange their freedom for knowledge. But in so doing, they imprison themselves within these groups, mind controlled into believing the lie that there is no truth taught anywhere else. By allowing themselves to fall under this delusion, they succumb to living a life of cultism, which is actually a deceptive form of idolatry. Sadly, they  surrender their faith along with an overflowing zeal for the Scriptures for the idolatrous worship of a cult leader and his man-made religious system.

In effect they have set themselves at enmity with the Most High, thus depriving themselves of His blessings by their waywardness. Therefore, it is the obligation of each believer to warn other believers of the danger of joining such deceptive, destructive organizations.

Resist those who teach you things you know to contradict the Scriptures, who teach a different Messiah, or who teach that the path to salvation must go through their organization. Our Heavenly Father, YHWH* (the personal name of the Almighty, thought by certain scholars to be pronounced "Yahweh"), does not change, and He is by no means the author of confusion. Beware of churches that justify the mistreatment of their members.

Have you been spiritually abused, mistreated, hated or despised by the leaders of a so-called Bible-based church or organization? This site has been developed to help you understand the machinations of those narcissistic shepherds who have strayed from serving the Most High to serving their own desires for self aggrandizement.

If you know of relatives, friends, or acquaintances who are in a questionable religious organization where several of the tell-tale signs of spiritual abuse apply, gently urge them to open the Scriptures to the Spirit of the Word and consider for themselves whether these things ought to be. If it seems that the overwhelming majority of these characteristics apply to their situation, they may be trapped within a dangerous cult and are actually under bondage to a demonic stronghold. See ROM. 8:38-39; EPH. 6:10-19.

Pray daily for them that the Holy Spirit will give them the discernment to understand what is happening and will lead them to a way of escape. Once they have gained their freedom, blow the shofar (ram's horn) for them in proclamation of their liberty and pray regularly that they will be fully healed from the trauma they have endured.

On the other hand, if you are a religious leader who has engaged in spiritual abuse or cultish behaviors, this site is intended to help you identify your sinful condition, not to judge and condemn you. If you need help overcoming your abusive tendencies, please contact PariYah for counsel and prayer.

If you are willing to acknowledge your problem and repent, you have already put yourself on the road to recovery. The next step will be working toward the restoration of those whom you have harmed. You must be willing to undo the damage you have inflicted upon others before you can experience a complete healing of this condition. Trust YHWH and turn your life over to Him, and He shall deliver you from whence you have fallen. Acknowledge the truth of the matter and He shall set you free from the bondage under which you live.

a Spiritually Abusive Church

1. Pyramidal power structure. As with the pharaohs of ancient Egypt who built kingdoms and monuments to themselves on the backs of rigorously controlled slave labor, so too are the spiritually abusive churches of modern times. And like the Satanic pyramid with the all-seeing eye, spiritually abusive churches and cults often are structured with the power emanating from the top down, keeping a suspicious eye on what everyone below is doing. Government is a key doctrine in spiritually abusive groups, where one glorified person at the top has the only say in all organization decisions. Within this Egyptian power structure, spiritual leaven naturally begins to ferment. The truth of the matter, though, is that only the Almighty Himself is the head, 1CO. 11:3. In DEU. 17:14-20, Israel is warned against having a man placed as king over them lest he misuses his power to make himself wealthy at the expense of reducing the people to virtual slavery. In the end, it seems that even those who begin with the best of intentions end up corroborating the age-old truism that "absolute power corrupts absolutely." The Messiah, who was known during His life by His Hebrew name "Yah'shua"* (or in English "Jesus," rendered from the Greek; see ACTS 4:12) of Nazareth, came to serve, not to be served, emptying Himself of His powers and humbling Himself before His Father and before men, PHP. 2:1-11. The Almighty’s servant is truly humble, not striving for his own self-aggrandizement, 2TI. 2:24, JOHN 13:3-15. In opposition to the oppressive Egyptian system, the Messiah, who came as a suffering servant, demonstrated humility by coming to serve from the bottom up, not from the top down.

2. Unregulated authority. Spiritually abusive practices often are the result of leadership that is unaccountable to a higher authority or board of review. Without such, members don’t dare question their pharaonic leader. Over time, the unaccountable leader consolidates his power over the group and finds ways to silence any would-be critics. Sometimes, boards or committees may be established for the appearance of propriety. In reality, though, they exist merely to rubberstamp the leader’s decisions and actions. The Pentateuch, or Torah (the five books of Moses, Genesis to Deuteronomy), indicates that spiritual authority is to be distributed among many and not consolidated solely under one, DEU. 16:18-20 and EXD. 18:13-17, 24-26. An example of authority under the Apostles is given in ACTS 15. Note how the Apostles spoke in unity, without dissension. As shown, the chief person in charge, whether it was Moses or James, had the final say in matters of judgment. However, they also were to rely on others to help them make decisions. In ancient times, authority was divided between the high priest and the judge, or king. Today, this dual arrangement continues in the synagogue and in some churches where authority is split between the head rabbi or pastor and the president of the congregation. The president concentrates on temporal, financial, and secular issues while the rabbi or pastor is free from the influence of lucre to focus strictly on spiritual concerns. Not only did Moses have Aaron to assist him but also the seventy elders, see NUM. 11:16-30. The council of seventy elders later developed into the Sanhedrin, which was in authority during the time of the Messiah. In the Apostolic age, ministers were specifically prohibited from despotically lording over their congregations, 1PE. 5:3-6. Rather, all are called upon to serve one another, JOHN 13:12-15, GAL. 5:13. In the end, all must answer to the Almighty Himself and be held accountable, EZK. 34:1-16; ROM. 2:6, 14:12-13; 2CO. 4:5. The Scriptures show repeatedly that wayward rulers were confronted by prophets, sent by the Almighty to show them their errors. Sadly, those today who would speak out against abusive and cultish behaviors in the church are persecuted, as were the prophets of old, ZEC. 1:4; MAT. 23:34; ACTS 7:52; HEB. 11:32-40; also see PSA. 8:2; MAT. 21:16; LUKE 10:21.

3. Leader worship. A spiritually abusive leader typically craves adoration and the ability to control his followers. Typically charismatic, he may adopt lofty titles to increase his purported importance. Followers are encouraged to pray that the Almighty will continue to guide and protect the leader and to thank Him for giving them such a wise and astute person to lead them. Almost invariably, the leader becomes the idolatrous focus of the ministry and the one around which everything revolves, instead of the Most High. Rather than seeking divine guidance, they go to him for direction, even over trivial matters, contrary to DEU. 17:8-13, which specifies coming for judgment in "matters too hard for you." Sadly, this passage is one that spiritually abusive ministers misconstrue to mean that absolute power has been given to them. A closer examination of the text shows at least two separate individuals, not one, acting in authority: the priest and the judge, thereby creating a balance in power. Besides them, there may be other priests and judges as well -- along, of course, with our High Priest and Chief Judge, who is the Messiah Himself, who also is our Master and Rabbi, MAT. 23:8-10. See also JER. 17:5-7.

4. A question of loyalty. Whom do you serve? Essentially this is the question that eventually comes forth to members of spiritually abusive groups. Whereas they might be given the impression that their loyalty is to the Almighty first, and then to the leader, the leader will cleverly use the Scriptures to usurp the loyalty of believers, which is rightfully reserved alone for Almighty YHWH*, JOS. 24:14-15. Once it is determined that a follower is not absolutely loyal to the group’s leader, that person can expect to be scorned, both privately and from the pulpit. As with the Pharisees of the Messiah’s lifetime, the leaders’ assistants will look for occasions that they can use to bring an accusation against the person. An effort will be made to have that person excommunicated, or disfellowshipped, from the group and shunned. After he has been cast out, he will be used as an example of what happens to a person when he comes down with a "negative attitude" or when he supposedly allows sin to enter into his life. Yet, these same modern-day Pharisees will chafe and backlash when their sins of pride and self-righteousness are pointed out or when their controlling, mean-spirited attitudes toward others are exposed, MAT. 23:5-12, 23-28.

5. Profuse praise. An immediate indication of an abusive ministry is the way in which the leader is profusely praised and lauded by his followers, MAT. 23:6-12. Often, these leaders may seemingly have adopted titles ad infinitum to give the illusion of importance. If the leader were truly humble, he would insist that the congregation refrain from such declarations of vanity but give the glory and praise to whom it rightfully should be directed instead: to Almighty YHWH*, the Most High, our King and Creator, REV. 22:8-9. Instead, worship services are more about stealing the adoration that rightfully belongs to the Almighty and directing it instead to the leader, ISA. 14:13-14. In this sense, the congregation has allowed itself to fall into idolatry, as did the Israelites with the golden calf they created, EXD. 32.

6. "I am the way." Spiritually abusive leaders may elevate themselves to being on the same level as one of the Messiah’s chosen Apostles, or even on the same level as the Messiah Himself. They may claim to carry the very keys of salvation and have the authority to determine who will be allowed into the New Jerusalem and who will be kept out. Without the leader, it is asserted, believers would not have come into knowledge of the Truth. By not embracing the leader’s unique message, it is insinuated that they are destined for damnation -- contrary to what the Messiah teaches about His role as Savior in JOHN 14:6. Thus, these abusive leaders in effect making themselves anti-messiah, i.e. in place of the Messiah. By their prideful self-exaltation, they put themselves into a position of power and control over their followers, making their teachings absolute and themselves the final arbiters of all doctrinal issues, 1TI. 6:3-5.

7. "My way or the highway!" Sadly, some spiritually abusive groups may begin as noble organizations, only to degenerate over time into oppressive petty dictatorships, revolving around devotion to the charismatic leader instead of love and obedience to the Father and Son, 1JN. 2:22. Maintaining that he is acting out of the best interests of the members, the leader sheds his humility and assumes complete control over any important decisions by both the group collectively and those of individual members. Rather than imploring the Almighty for guidance, the pharaonic leader lords over the congregation as a despot, dictating his preferences, 1PE. 5:1-7. Anyone who dares disagree with the leader risks being vilified, slandered, and ridiculed, either overtly or indirectly, publicly or privately.

8. "Us vs. them" mentality. Loyalty to the leader often becomes the central issue in spiritually abusive, cultish churches. Consequently, the leaders’ sermons and writings may obsess with perceived attacks against him, claiming that Satan is trying his hardest to overthrow the ministry. Fostering an "us vs. them" mentality may lead to a siege mindset, where mind-controlled followers feel they are under constant daily attack and rely on him for making day-to-day decisions affecting their personal lives. This type of paranoid, delusional thinking can give Satan occasion to create divisions through accusations and aspersions, 1CO. 1:10.

9. Church of the inquisition. The power base of a spiritually abusive leader is the unquestioning, unwavering loyalty of his followers. Consequently, anyone who questions his authority is perceived as a threat. Thus, messages are often preached on the evils of rebellion and on total obedience to authority. Resentment is engendered against those who ask too many questions. At some point, anyone thought to be disloyal may find himself angrily confronted with accusations and demands for public repentance or face excommunication. Essentially, those who ask too many questions are told in so many words to "shut up or leave." Nevertheless, the Bible shows that Nicodemus asked the Messiah questions about his mission and the Bereans confirmed Paul’s preaching in the Scriptures. Biblically, one is expected to "put the prophet to the test" and remain vigilant against deceivers and deceptions, JER. 17:5; 2TI. 3:13-17. Putting forth questions is an important tool to arrive at the truth. By his way of answering questions, the Messiah revealed Himself to be a true prophet, sent from heaven above.

10. Ministering by backlashings and browbeatings. One way that leaders of spiritually abusive groups immunize themselves from criticism is by backlashing, i.e. lashing back at, any members who would dare question their authority. They use the pulpit to browbeat and chastise those perceived as their opposition, pointing fingers and raising a high hand, and twisting Scriptures to consolidate their own power at the expense and humiliation of others, 1TI. 3:1-3, 2TI. 2:24-26, TTS. 3:1-3. In this sense, they are like the pharaohs, often depicted with a crook in one hand to signify their role as chief shepherd over the people and whip in the other hand to denote their authoritarian governance and rulership over the slaves. In some cases, the abusive leader leaves the browbeatings and backlashings to his trusted assistants (henchmen) to preserve his own popularity among the members.

11. Plagued by profound paranoia. A common characteristic of spiritually abusive groups and destructive religious cults is the profound paranoia of its leaders, who secretly fear that they will be exposed in the light of truth. This paranoia may manifest itself as a constant fear of an uprising against the group’s administration. Such an occurrence may be likened to the Korah rebellion in NUM. 16. Excessive emphasis may be put on being watchful for the wolves entering into the fold -- suggesting that false prophets are supposedly rising up among the members and spreading dissension against the administration. However, these self-righteous Pharisees never tolerate the thought that they actually are the wolves who are preying upon the flock, EZK. 34:1-10. This fearfulness and paranoia is most unseemly and out of character for any group flourishing in the Holy Spirit. Those well grounded in Scriptural truth have no reason to be in constant fear, 1JN. 4:18-21.

12. Spies like flies. Those who speak out against the statements or actions of the authoritarian leader, his trusted assistants (henchmen), or his family members may be likened to "Agents of the Devil." Also, those outside this exclusive clique can expect to be under constant suspicion and even "guilty until proved innocent." Members of cultish churches are encouraged to spy on or avoid those members who are under suspicion for disagreeing with the leader. The spies sent forth by Moses in NUM. 13 were sent to spy out the land and its inhabitants NOT to spy within the camp and report on fellow brethren. In the Messiah’s lifetime, the Pharisees and religious authorities often sent spies to find something with which to accuse Him, LUKE 20:20. The in-house intelligence network may be such that it seems like spies are buzzing around everywhere in the organization, quick to report everything, even casting a negative slant on perfectly innocent situations. As a result, members do not know whom to trust, and the group becomes divided against itself, MAT. 12:25; MARK 3:26; LUKE 11:17.

13. Super secretive. Among the obvious double standards in a spiritually abusive group is its handling of sin among members. When the sins of the general congregation come to light, there most assuredly will be outrage and righteous indignation from the pulpit, followed by browbeatings and disparagements against the members. Too often, the private situations of members, which should be kept confidential, are circulated and discussed openly. But if the incidents involve the families of the leaders, the office staff, and others in the "protected" inner core, these situations are handled quietly and discreetly, often without the knowledge of the general congregation. The office staff and those in the inner core are expected to keep certain personal, administrative, and financial matters secret from the rest of the members, mainly to protect the reputations of their leaders and preserve the myth of the organization’s infallibility -- the lie that it alone is "the one true religious organization," PRV. 24:23; JAS. 2:8-9; 2TH. 2:11.

14. Henchmen do the dirty work. One of the worst fears of a spiritually abusive leader is that members of his congregation will become disgruntled and walk out, taking their future tithes and offerings with them. Thus, henchmen are used to deliver browbeatings and administer church discipline while outwardly the leader appears unconnected to their actions. Meanwhile, the leader can maintain his congenial appearance and continue to control the loyalty of his followers. Some abusive pharaonic leaders are adept at playing the game of "good cop/bad cop." They use their thoroughly programmed, unquestioningly loyal assistants (henchmen) -- the modern-day taskmasters -- to preach the condemnatory messages while they seemingly remain kind, caring, and full of love for each member. In reality, though, it is the leader who has put his own words into the mouth of his assistants and orchestrated this ministration of lashings to the perceived dissidents in the congregation. When worship services end, the abusive head Pharisee will be there to greet the wounded congregants at the door, smirking in their faces and wishing them back next week for more of the same. See MAT. 21:45-46; LUKE 22:2.

15. Facade of righteousness. To maintain others unswerving loyalty, abusive leaders love to appear "more righteous" than their followers, thus providing them with a shining example of someone whose faith they ought to imitate. They deceive their followers by appearing overly strict and rigid in such matters as how they look, what they eat, what they read, what they watch on television, and what they do for leisure. They wish to give the appearance of being totally pure and unblemished. In private, however, it is often another story. By striving to live after appearances, they may become unbalanced and slip into oppressive, Pharisaic judgmentalism, condescendingly looking down on others while exalting themselves, MAT. 23:1-12, 27-33; ROM. 12:3,16; TTS. 1:16.

16. Hypocrisy and double standards. One of the most easily recognizable indications of a spiritually abusive group is the double standards and hypocrisy by which its leaders operate, ROM. 2:1-3. But when its rules or policies inconvenience the leader or his family, exceptions are allowed. Much like those crooked, self-righteous Pharisees in the Bible, these spiritually abusive leaders believe themselves to be above the law, MAT. 23:1-4. Among the instances where double standards most often appear is in church discipline, such as in its misapplication of suspensions, shunning, and excommunications. They also may feel entitled to a lavish lifestyle at the expense of others, even while some impoverished members of the church are living in dire need, 1JN. 3:17.

17. Revivals or reversals? Over time, members of abusive religious groups may notice a reversal of certain policies, possibly without announcement or explanation. These reversals in policy likely mainly benefit the leader, his family, or those within the protected inner core. The general congregation is expected to comply without question. Yet, if the organization claims to be "the one true group," then how can the truth change? See PRV. 24:21-22; MAL. 3:6; 1CO. 14:33. These double standards deteriorate the faith and spirituality of members, leaving only a shell of legalism and leader worship. A spiritual re-awakening is necessary to revive them from the stupor or strong delusion into which they have fallen, 2TH. 2:11.

18. Definite defensiveness. Abusive, authoritarian leaders crave unquestioning obedience. If questioned or challenged, they may claim to minister under the same authority as conferred upon Moses. Any disagreement with their position may be likened to the rebellions of Korah, NUM. 16, or of Jannes and Jambres, 2TI. 3:8. The leader may become extremely defensive and resort to accusing those who oppose him of rising up against the Almighty Himself and His selected anointed one, 1CH. 16:22. He may even accuse them with being "Agents of the Adversary." In such instances, the believer must resolve to remain steadfast in the Word and humbly defend himself with the sword of the Scriptures to defeat this pernicious, self-righteous spirit of adversity, EPH. 6:10-20, 2TI. 3:13-17, HEB. 4:12.

19. Rush to judgmentalism. Viewing themselves as divinely appointed judges over the people, spiritually abusive leaders may not be able to resist the temptation to meddle in matters not their own. Exercising control where none is needed, they make judgments and condemnations from the pulpit against members, PRV. 26:17, 1CO. 4:4-5. Sadly, these leaders are only to quick to use the "bully pulpit" to promulgate their own personal opinions, prejudices, and preferences over those of the members and add further to the long list of policy prohibitions, PSA. 72:1-4, JOHN 7:24. It is no wonder that many members secretly feel oppressed and overburdened, not realizing that membership in a cultish group only drives them deeper into depression and despair.

20. Breaking the opposition through "breaking sessions." As abusive leaders feel threatened, they retaliate by ordering a conference room session ostensibly to resolve the outstanding issues. Among authors who have written on spiritual abuse, these backroom meetings have commonly become known as "breaking sessions." Often they may drag on for hours until the leader is able to impose his will on others and prevail over them in the end. Those in the opposition will likely emerge emotionally exhausted, streaming with tears, broken in spirit, and feeling downcast, disparaged, and denigrated, as in ISA. 61:1-4. These meetings can turn ugly, with the Bible-thumping leader using Scripture upon Scripture to browbeat and belittle. Abusive leaders have been known to stack the room with henchmen, whose unswerving loyalty to the leader can be counted on regardless of what complaints against him may be brought forth. See 1TI. 3:7, 5:17-19.

21. Throwing away the talents of others. Among the chief fears of an abusive charismatic leader is that he will be eclipsed by someone with greater talents, especially in pastoring, preaching, and teaching. Thus, anyone suspected as becoming such a threat may be deliberately stifled in his growth while accused of attempting to take over the organization. Thus, the pyramidal power structure is maintained, with the pharaonic leader on top lording over the enslaved members of the organization, contrary to the Scriptural model of a healthy, vibrant organism living in freedom in the Messiah, 1CO. 12:1-31; EPH. 4:11-15.

22. Shaming and guilt manipulation. A characteristic of many spiritually abusive leaders is their ability to manipulate others by playing on their guilt over sins committed in the distant or not-so-distant past. Members are controlled by being constantly reminded of past sins, mistakes, and shortcomings. While the authoritarian leader is quick to condemn others, he is loathe to discuss his own failings or those of his family. Instead, he projects himself as a pristine example of righteous living -- as in the Parable of the Pharisee and the Publican, LUKE 18:9-14. Over time, his hypocrisy and hatred for others will be self-evident to the discerning. Eventually, these abuse victims can be expected to rise up and leave the church behind once they have finally had enough.

23. Thou shalt hate thy neighbor. To ensure support against his perceived enemies, abusive leaders will instill hatred in their followers against fellow believers – especially former members, many of whom may have left after being grossly mistreated. In so doing, these cultish leaders effectively deny the Faith, teaching a hate-based fallacy instead. Scriptures are twisted to grant permission to be spiteful and nasty toward those who are no longer loyal, subordinate, tithe-paying "sheeple." Nevertheless, the Bible teaches that those who are without love for their fellow believer are actually without love for the Almighty, LEV. 19:17; JOHN 13:34-35; 1JN. 3:13, 23-24, 4:16-21. Sadly, these servants of Satan use emotional arguments loosely based on Scripture to blind believers and lead them astray from sound Biblical teachings, as we of these latter times are warned against in 1JN. 4:1-13; 2 JN. 4-11; 3JN. 9-11; JUDE 3-4, 12-13. While knowing that practicing brotherly hatred is not the way Yah'shua* the Messiah taught us to live, some still allow abusive leaders to push them into this type of spiritual mire, which the leaders shamefully pervert as being truth, 2PE. 2:20-22. Eventually, discerning members will see the light of truth for themselves. Incidentally, according to the Talmud, the Almighty allowed Herod's Temple to be destroyed in 70 A.D. because of malicious slander and hatred among fellow Jews. This seems to be confirmed in the N.T. by the acrimony expressed by the various Jewish groups toward one another. In that Solomon's Temple had been destroyed because of idolatry, it would seem that the destruction of both Temples came because YHWH's people violated the two greatest commandments of the Torah: to love the Almighty foremost and to love one's neighbor as one's self, DEU. 6:4-6; LEV. 19:18; MAT. 22:36-40; MARK 12:28-31.

24. Constantly at enmity. By their aberrant behaviors, abusive leaders of cultish churches inevitably leave a trail of wounded behind them. Former members often become viewed as perpetual enemies. Many may have left because they were wronged, mistreated, manipulated, lied to, or witnessed hypocrisy up front and chose to speak out rather than keep silent. In so doing, they risked vilification and shunning from fellow members. Some who simply may have been trying to correct organizational problems may have suddenly found themselves expelled from membership. While it is true that the Messiah and the Apostles, as well as others in the Bible, often found themselves opposed by adversaries, abusive leaders have a way of creating enemies unnecessarily, ROM. 14:16-19; 1CO. 7:15; HEB. 12:14-15. Abusive leaders essentially need enemies in order to maintain the siege mentality within their congregations. By suggesting that the Devil is constantly on the attack, the leader maintains control while ensuring that the members remain dependent on him for defense and sustenance.

25. Silencing through shunning. Anyone who has spoken out against hypocrisy or mistreatment by a Pharisaic leader may likely find himself branded as a troublemaker and hence removed from membership. Such a person might then be strictly shunned and counted as an apostate -- essentially portrayed as one destined for eternal damnation. This heavy-handed practice effectively intimidates and silences any future would-be critics. No return is permitted until he renounces his criticisms and confesses his purported sins before the congregation. Terms of membership restoration may then be dictated to him, which may also include a probation period in which he would be monitored closely to determine whether he says or does any semblance of anything critical against any of the church leaders again. By allowing his silenced critics to return, the abusive leader appears magnanimous and forgiving while in actuality he is extremely controlling. See EPH. 4:25-32.

26. Self-pity and self-victimization. When the lies and hypocrisy of abusive leaders are exposed, they may defend themselves by playing on the sympathies of members, often making themselves out to be victims of relentless attacks from Satan himself and his agents, PRV. 26:25-26; 2CO. 4:5-6. More likely, though, is that the opposition these leaders have received comes from the natural adverse reaction to being abused. It seems some people can only witness or absorb so much mistreatment before responding in kind, EXD. 2:11-12.

27. Pride and lack of humility. Abusive, leavened leaders become arrogant and self-serving as they consolidate their control over their followers. If there is any appearance of humility left in them, it is nothing more than a performance intended to disguise their true nature: puffed up with Pharisaic pride and self-righteousness, JER. 44:10; MIC. 6:8; MAT. 20:26, 23:12; GAL. 6:3. As Satan comes as an angel of light, so too do his ministers, who inwardly are full of filth and corruption, 2CO. 11:14-15, MAT. 23:27-28.

28. Just preachy! Not surprisingly, many spiritually abusive ministers just love to preach, especially when it allows them the opportunity to tongue lash and browbeat others from the pulpit. Foreign to them would be the role of gentle teacher, who humbly opens the Word to instruct and edify, as did our beloved Rabbi, Yah'shua* HaMashiach, MAT. 23:8. Instead, these ministers will get "Rev-ved up" when they preach. They may approach the pulpit with a high look and quickly shed any semblance of humility as they launch their vituperative attacks. They may use the occasion of worshipping the Almighty to take center stage and drone on with long, boring sermons to a "captive" audience that allow them to speak ad nauseum on whatever is on their minds at the moment, PSA. 52:2-4, 59:12, 140:3; PRV. 10:11, 10:31-32, 13:3; 1TI.3:2-10; 2TI. 2:15, 2:24-26. Their obsessive love of preaching often is also reflected in their writings, where the wording excessively shifts to bold, underlined, and capitalized letters or combinations of each, followed by the exaggerated use of exclamation points. Paragraph after paragraph, page after page, it seems the text is constantly shouting at you! So, even on paper, their abusiveness continues unrelentingly.

29. Possessing extraordinary abilities and Biblical knowledge. Sadly, many of those who fall victim to spiritually abusive groups become enamored with an unusually gifted leader, seemingly blessed with abilities and knowledge that far surpass that of other religious leaders. The charismatic leader may be viewed as a prophet or spokesman for the Almighty. As long as he is able to mesmerize his followers, they will remain captives to his abuse -- and separated from the spiritual freedom the Almighty wishes for us, 1CO. 13:1-2; 2PE. 2:19; GAL. 5:13-15.

30. Twisting of Scriptures. The abusive religious leader often knows that the source of his power is his command of Scriptural knowledge. As hypocrisy and double standards appear, he may resort to skillfully twisting the Scriptures to defend himself from attack. Of course, twisting the Scriptures is nothing new. Even during the lifetimes of the Apostles, their writings were twisted by those ignorant of the way of truth, 2PE. 3:14-17.

31. False prophecies and predictions. If one wishes to be thought of as a prophet, he must bear the burden under which a prophet lives, DEU. 13:1-6, 18:20-22. So, when it turns out that a cultish leader, who allows and even encourages his followers to exalt him as a prophet, prophesies falsely and makes faulty predictions, people are commanded to disregard him, DEU. 18:22; 1KG. 13. Too often, the erroneous teachings and prognostications of false prophets have brought devastation upon their followers. When their prophecies fail, these wolves in prophetic wool blame the sheep for their own failures, charging that their prophecies did not come about because the people were not ready yet or still had pride in their lives. Eventually, though, justice shall prevail. As the corrupted prophet Balaam died in battle against the very people whom YHWH* intended him to bless, NUM. 22:39, 23:11-12; 23:26, 31:8, so too will these false prophets pay dearly for their lies and falsehoods, MAT. 12:37, 18:6, 25:30; 2PE. 2:15-20; JUDE 11. Pray that they will repent of their misdeeds before it is too late for them.

32. A profitic rather than prophetic ministry. Like Balaam, NUM. 22-25, 31: 8, 16, these prophets for hire care only for their own comfort and well-being. Over time, they come to look at their congregations as secure sources of income, as flocks to be fleeced and feasted upon, EZK. 34:1-10. Instead of tending to the spiritual needs of the congregation, the main focus becomes maintaining certain financial levels that afford them a high level of comfort and convenience at the expense of the church members. As a result, the preaching is tailored according to the financial needs of the leader, ROM. 16:18; 1PE. 5:2. There likely will be frequent appeals for greater giving. Special projects may be announced to momentarily capture the imagination of the members. Money-loving Pharisaic leaders delight in urging their churches to give generously so that the Great Commission may finally be completed or that the restoration of all things ultimately will be accomplished. Meanwhile, there is almost no accountability, just misguided trust among the members, as to where the money goes.

33. Shady finances. Abusive leaders feel their word should suffice as to how church revenue is spent. Thus, its written, fully itemized record of finances is kept in the dark, hidden away from the members’ access, away from receiving the light of scrutiny. There are no published financial statements, no auditing of accounting records by a reputable independent auditor. The bookkeeping is likely done by someone closely connected with the leader, such as a family member or a lifelong friend. In so doing, the appearance of evil is given, 1TH. 5:22. Nevertheless, the Scriptures clearly teach stewardship and accountability, but certain church leaders seem to feel that they are exempted. Instead, they believe they have a mandate from their congregations to do as they see best while remaining answerable to nobody. In time, the Master will return and hold them accountable, as in the Parable of the Talents, MAT. 25:14-30; also 1CO. 11:14-15.

34. "Sanctified" for personal use. As self-proclaimed servants of the Most High, spiritually abusive leaders and their willing assistants may often feel entitled to use church property as if it were their very own, rather than setting that property apart as holy unto Almighty YHWH*, LEV. 10:10; 1TI. 5:21. So, if they damage or misuse that property, it may be conveniently overlooked and forgotten. On the other hand, if the same happened to the average church member -- who helped pay for that item of property with his tithes, offerings, and contributions -- he likely would be compelled to make restitution and may even be prohibited from using church property again. These types of double standards are typical in abusive churches, where the members are held in bondage to the hierarchy, who often look down upon their brethren with disdain. See DEU. 25:13-16; LEV. 19:17; MAT. 22:37-40; 1JN. 4:20-21.

35. "Entitled" to a comfortable life. In time, as contributions increase, the lording leaders of spiritually abusive groups feel entitled to elevate their salaries to a filthy "lucre-ative" level. While some members are struggling to make ends meet and living in poverty, the blind guides feel entitled to live in comfort, even in self-indulgent luxury, TTS 1:7, 11, unlike the Messiah and His Disciples, MAT. 8:20. Attempting to camouflage their affluence, they may cover up the situation by deliberately give a misleading impression, such as pretending to be poor while claiming that they receive only according to their needs while most of the funds are spent on work of the ministry. Nevertheless, the one who is discerning will be able to see for himself who is lavishly living "high on the hog" while the needs of those who truly are in need go neglected. See DEU. 15:7-11; MAT. 23:14; 1TI. 3:3, 6:9-10; ROM 12:9-13; 1JN. 3:17.

36. Dishonorable reputation. Over time, stories about the abusive behaviors of a particular cultish group, especially those of its self-exalted leader, circulate in the community and among other churches. To ascertain whether a reputation is rightfully deserved or falsely fabricated, one must make diligent inquiry. If one wishes to find out the truth about the history of a specific group, often the best way to do so is to directly ask those who would know from personal experience. As indicated in DEU. 19:15-19, one should query the witnesses and establish why they believe the group mistreated them. If it can be established that the given testimony is truthful, sincere, and unbiased, and it is confirmed by the accounts of other witnesses, and it corresponds with the tell-tale signs of spiritual abuse, one would do well to mark the leader of that group and his disciples as departed from the way of truth and avoid them, 2TH 3:6-7; 2TI 3:1-7.

37. "Be ye imitators of me!" The Apostle Paul urged believers to be imitators of him, even as he sought to be like Messiah Yah'shua*, 1CO. 1:11. While the Scriptures teach church leaders also to be an example, it is expected that the leaders will not lord over their congregations and become controlling, denigrating, and despotic, 1PE. 5:1-3. Sadly, those who seek the favor of an abusive leader, often become imitators of him, even imitating his abusiveness toward others, and adopting his eccentricities, mannerisms, and characteristics. Thus, the abusiveness and hatefulness of the leader becomes contagious -- to the extent that the mistreatment of members may even seem normal.

38. Unfit to lead. When compared with the standards set forth in the Scriptures, such as in 1TI. 3, some ministers simply do not measure up. Some do not even rule well in their own homes and have children in outright rebellion. Some are more concerned with showing off their knowledge of Scriptures or with showing off their preaching abilities. Whether they were truly ordained by the Almighty into His service is questionable. Abusive leaders typically lack humility. Satisfying their own selfish pride seems to be their main concern. In any event, such leaders are unable to provide a sound example of what it is to be a true disciple of the Messiah. Thus, by the authority of the Scriptures, those leaders are unqualified to serve in their positions. In such cases, the leader should humble himself before the Almighty by offering to step down and allow someone else to lead who is Scripturally qualified and shows the fruits of the Holy Spirit in his life, GAL. 5:22-25.

39. A history of dramatic turnovers. Eventually, the congregation will see its pastor for who he is: someone not called by the Almighty to be their shepherd. As his deficiencies become more readily apparent, more members will be only too ready and willing to leave when the right opportunity arises. As history has a way of repeating itself, an abusive group likely has a history of dramatic turnovers, where several members depart over contentions with the leader. See ECC. 1:9-10. Such incidents may be referred to under such euphemisms as "an organizational problem" or "a changing of the guard." Whatever such turnovers may be called, they are indications that something went awry and could happen again. One needs more information about any dramatic turnovers, especially from those who were there at the time, to determine whether the group is safe or dangerous, balanced or cultish, loving or hateful, caring or abusive, 1TH. 5:19-22.

40. Organizational historical revisionism. Realizing that mistakes were made in the past, the abusive leader of the cultish church may seek to do a cover-up by rewriting its history in such a way that absolves him from any guilt, 1JN. 4:1. Such a historical recollection is untrustworthy since it is essentially the whitewashed version of how the leader wishes to be remembered by others, MAT. 23:27-28. If one wishes to know the truth of the matter, one must discover it personally from those who were there and remember how events occurred.

41. Whitewashed sepulchers. Abusive, Pharisaic leaders strive to appear outwardly righteous, but inwardly they are full of evil and corruption, MAT. 23:25-34. They may wear clothing that makes them appear devout, pious, or humble. They delight in heaping lofty titles upon themselves and love to hear those titles roll off the lips of their followers in praise and exaltation. In worship services and fellowship meals, they may reserve for themselves the chief seats to give the impression that they are foremost in importance. They stress matters of minutiae while neglecting the weightier matters of Biblical Law, MAT. 23:5-12, 23-24. A propensity to prevaricate repeatedly is a sure sign that these actually are the servants of Satan, the Father of Lies, ISA. 32:7; JOHN 8:44; 1TI. 4:2; REV. 21:8. The administration of an abusive church may have become so infected with this tendency toward telling falsehoods that it may seem like a lair of liars.  Once these prevaricators have been caught spinning their web of deceits, they can never be trusted again. Henceforth, it might be best, so to say, to avoid them "religiously," 2TH. 3:1-7. 

42. Lack of spiritual fruits. Lying, slandering, and being downright hateful are often the rotten fruits produced by spiritually abusive ministers as they work behind the scenes to control and manipulate their followers, rather than showing genuine love and serving their spiritual needs, GAL. 3:13-15. While these cold-hearted Pharisees may pretend to exercise great spiritual qualities, the truth of the matter is typically the complete opposite, MAT. 7:16; 23:28; JAS. 3:17. Often, the discovery of  hypocrisy and hatefulness among the church leaders is the trigger that fires the determination in people to finally leave and seek out the spiritual freedom intended for them. Ex-members can no longer tolerate being in bondage to any man who would be as a pharaoh over them. Using GAL. 5:16-25 as a guide, they have seen for themselves that their leaders live according to the works of the flesh rather than the fruit of the Spirit -- "love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, meekness, self-control." If it seems the leader lacks in these qualities, it is evident that he does not walk by the Holy Spirit. Thus, one must question whether he is even qualified to serve in his position.

43. "Love-bombing" into submission. Feigning love is one way in which cultish churches recruit new members. Prospective new members may be overwhelmed, or "bombed," with an effusive love until they cannot help but surrender to this exciting euphoria by joining the congregation. Thus, as they settle in, they may quickly notice that the love toward them, which was only superficial, has grown cold, EPH. 4:14-16, 4:25; 1PE. 1:22. Subsequently, they find that they no longer feel as welcomed or valued as they did earlier. As time goes on, their zeal may wane as it seems that only their financial contributions receive some measure of appreciation. Meanwhile, to make matters worse, these downtrodden members find themselves increasingly under attack for having a "negative attitude." Opposite to the situation when they joined, they may even feel like they have become pariahs among their brethren, seemingly unloved and unwanted, among those whom they should feel most appreciated, ROM. 12:9-17. They may find themselves captive to the church, wanting to leave but unable to do so. 

44. "There is no love here." Churches that have succumbed to a legalistic, Pharisaic mindset become cold, cultish, condemning places to worship. Worship services become so somber that they may begin to resemble funeral services, MAT. 24:12. Almost all joy has ceased, LAM. 5:15-16. Members are made to feel terribly guilty for the smallest infractions of church policy. They are routinely berated for not measuring up. Eventually, some members become so distraught that they abruptly leave, charging that there is not enough love in the organization, 1CO. 13:2; JOHN 13:34-35; 1JN. 4:11, 19-21. They realize that a church without love cannot truly be the "one true church." Henceforth, nothing more may ever be heard from these former members as they move on from a very painful experience with spiritual abuse in attempt to regain their love and zeal for the Bible, which had become lost in their lives.

45. For shame! In time, some of the covered-up, shameful sins and misdeeds of the abusive leaders are revealed, EPH. 5:7-18. Typically, those who bring these matters to the surface are reviled. A vituperative counterattack may be launched as a means of intimidating them into silence. Although excuses, rationalizations, and justifications will be offered as part of the damage-control efforts, one must prove all things and establish the truth of the matter, 1TH. 5:21-22. Rarely, though, will these leaders do the right thing by admitting their shortcomings and humbly offering to resign from their positions -- which they are no longer Biblically qualified to hold anyhow, 1TI. 3. The worse shame, though, is that these leaders are so intoxicated with having authority over others that they cannot break free from their addiction to it. Thus, their position no longer is about serving others but about serving their own egos, 2CO. 4:1-6.

46. Masters of micromanagement. Abusive leaders love to stand in judgment over their followers in all areas of their lives. When they need something with which to criticize somebody, they will pry into his or her private life and dig up some dirt from the past, MAT. 7:3-4; LUKE 6:41-42. When an abusive leader asks certain followers for help in doing some responsibility, they typically may end up being criticized later for not doing it as well as the leader would have done it. Hence, it seems only the leader understands "true righteousness." When people are micro-managed, usually nothing they do is ever good enough. As a result, the followers self-confidence may be deliberately shattered as a means of control and manipulation through guilt. Under the crushing weight of guilt, carrying the heavy load of past sins is too burdensome to bear. Nevertheless, our Savior taught us to place our burdens on Him, allowing us to escape from this hopeless condition, ISA. 61:1-3; MAT. 11:28-30; GAL. 5:1.

47. Lethally legalistic. Too often, Christians mistakenly believe that Yah'shua* the Messiah (whom they refer to as Jesus the Christ) opposed the Pharisees of his time because they were keepers of the Biblical commandments. Whereas there was a zeal for Torah observance, many of the Pharisees He encountered were more concerned about correctly keeping of their man-made commandments and traditions, many of which were at variance with the Law of YHWH*, MAT. 15:1-9; MARK 7:9; COL. 2:8. So too, modern-day spiritually abusive leaders become obsessed with their own burdensome Scriptural interpretations and organizational policies that religion becomes more about legalistic rules and regulations than about loving the Almighty and ones neighbor. In so doing, these legalistic churches stifle the zeal for all things Biblical. Over time, the members become mind-controlled zombies, dead to the Spirit of the Law, consumed instead by a never-ending battle to live up to the impossible standards for perfection set forth by their church leaders -- in which even they are shown to have failed miserably when their own sins are revealed.

48. Under a "strong delusion." A church that has been hijacked by an abusive minister and his henchmen and turned into a cult typically asserts that it alone is the one true religious organization. They teach that there is no salvation outside of their cult. All believers outside of that church are looked upon as infidels. This strong delusion that they alone are "the Truth" gives the leader to act as a virtual dictator, deciding for himself what is right and wrong and twisting the Scriptures to justify his positions, 2TH. 2:1-12. Members can become so self-assured that they alone have the Truth that they become blind to what the Bible actually teaches about truth and how they ought to live and act toward others, JOHN 13:34-35; 1JN. 5:2-3; REV. 3:17.

49. Icy isolationism. The church that proclaims itself as the one true body of believers segregates itself into an elitist, exclusionary existence. Since all other churches are supposedly destined for condemnation when the Master returns, there is really no point to having fellowship with them, even those holding similar  doctrines. They look upon all others as evil and corrupt while exalting themselves, LUKE 18:9-14. They view themselves as the small, select group that alone inherits the coming Kingdom while all others will surely burn in the Lake of Fire. Thus, an ugly spirit of self-righteousness is engendered.

50. Dictatorial rather than didactic. Over time, these pharaonic, abusive leaders of cultish churches tailor their teachings to force the members to submit to them, rather than to Almighty YHWH*, our King Eternal. Teachings (Greek: didache, from whence the English word "didactic" comes) that would spiritually edify and uplift the members from the rigors of this worldly system of spiritual bondage are downplayed in favor of those about pyramidal church government, stringent tithing, giving above and beyond one's ability, and reverencing one's elders. Freedom from sin in the atoning sacrifice of Messiah Yah'shua* is a theme that cult leaders silently despise. Rather, they wish for their despairing followers to feel overwhelmed by the burden of sin and guilt, only to reach out in desperation to the cult leader for deliverance. Only by doing exactly what he says -- allowing him to dictate what they are to believe and how they are to live -- can they have any hope of salvation. In so doing, these masters of spiritual enslavement have molded themselves into a figurative likeness of the pagan Canaanite storm god Baal -- whose name in Hebrew simply denotes "lord" or "master." In the ancient world, Baal often was depicted lashing out with a whip and was to be feared, lest he grew angry. Making themselves lords and masters over the people, these self-exalting dictators may go as far as to demand to be worshipped as if they themselves were gods -- and in effect divert worship away from the Most High to themselves, 1KG. 18:21; 1PE. 5:2-6. This correlates in principle to what the prophet Daniel described as "the abomination that makes desolate," DAN. 8:13, 9:27, 12:11. This phrase describes the obnoxious, idolatrous act that is so repugnant to the Almighty that it provokes His wrath upon those who would exalt themselves over Him. Woe unto him who treads upon such dangerous ground!

Through these 50 tell-tale signs, it is hoped that those who are in spiritual bondage, would realize that they have been called to liberty, ROM. 8:21; 2CO. 3:17; GAL. 5:1. If we have been set free from bondage, why then do we, like the ancient Israelites coming out of Egypt, wish to return to enslavement? Likewise, why do people come out of mainstream churches, that are dead in faith, and go on to join abusive churches, where the leaders beat them down with Pharisaic legalism and quench the Holy Spirit within them? See ACTS 7:51-53.         

"And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free," JOHN 8:32. If we follow after truth, we naturally seek to be free. Messiah Yah'shua proclaimed liberty to the captives of spiritual bondage, LUKE 4:18, quoting ISA 61:1. Freedom is lived according to the Law of Liberty, i.e. the teachings of the Torah and the Word of YHWH, PSA. 119:45; JAS. 1:25-27, 2:12. In these times, despite all the reference tools at our disposal, there is a thirst for Biblical knowledge.          

Many who leave the traditionally mainline churches seeking greater spiritual enlightenment, find themselves attracted to unconventional fringe groups and cultish independent churches, where it may seem that a greater degree of Biblical truth is taught. In going from one church to another, it seems they have traveled from one extreme to another. Seeking freedom from the trappings of religious ceremonialism and traditionalism, they find themselves brought back into bondage by those who promise liberty but only deliver oppression, 2PE. 2:12-19. Be watchful, be wary, for the Adversary seeks to entice and deceive, even impersonating a "messenger (the primary meaning of angel) of light" in an attempt to overthrow your faith, 2CO. 11:13-15.         

Thus, you are urged to use this list of 50 tell-tale signs to discern the truth of the matter. Use these signs to determine whether your church and its leaders are using spiritual abuse as a means to enslave you into spiritual bondage. If it seems that many, if not almost all, of the items on this list match what is happening in your church, you seriously need to consider a course of action. Your church may have degenerated into a full-blown cult, where restoration to normalcy and moderation seems highly unlikely. In the end, if its leaders make it clear that they will not receive correction from YHWH, then perhaps it would be best to quietly make your departure and put your bad experiences behind you. As you let go, remember to forgive your abusers and pray regularly that they would see the errors of their ways and repent.

From extensive studies into the subject, the author observed that spiritual abuse is much like its close relatives emotional abuse and authority abuse. Certain common patterns emerge. The experiences of one person tends to be similar in many respects to that of others. The outcomes, however, are often the same: personal devastation and years of depression as the victim struggles to make sense of it all, while feeling that the Almighty has deserted him.          

Nevertheless, where the experiences often differ is in the extent of abuse suffered. In some cases after leaving, the victims simply shrug off the experience and move on with their lives. For others, psychological scars will remain following their traumatic experience with a church gone cultish. Mind control techniques may have left some victims feeling as though they were unloved and unwanted, destined for damnation. However, these scars can be healed through prayer, forgiveness, and meditation on the Scriptures.

Perhaps from the abuse believers suffer, victims will become even stronger in faith, serving the Almighty with greater determination, and showing more affection and magnanimity toward others, HEB. 12:6-8; 2TI. 4:5-8; 2TH. 1:4-12; ACTS 5:41-42; PSA. 9:13. Through these experiences, one can grow unshakeable and ever more steadfast in faith.

This material is based on more than 20 years of encounters with cultish behaviors in certain non-mainstream religious Bible-based groups, along with considerable research of the phenomena and hearing numerous spiritual abuse victims’ testimonies – many remarkably similar to those of the author. Perhaps these 50 points may help some in similar situations avoid the same type of devastation the author endured after his time spent with spiritually abusive organizations. Sadly, he has repeatedly seen where authority without accountability only leads to spiritual abuse and cultish attitudes. 

The document "50 Tell-Tale Signs of a Spiritually Abusive Church" is by no means a comprehensive list of spiritual abuse indicators. There could be many more tell-tale signs that are not listed that are just as indicative of abusive and cultish behavior. Of these 50 points, some of them overlap while others barely scratch the surface of a much deeper problem. It is hoped that they provide a list of warning signs, of behaviors to watch out for, lest your church is overtaken.          

It should be noted that these points apply only to Bible-based churches and ministries. New Age, Eastern, esoteric, occultic, and scientologic religious systems may have some different tell-tale signs since their teachings are not rooted in Biblical concepts. Nevertheless, it seems there are certain characteristics common to all cults, whether Biblically based or not. These 50 points do not specifically target any particular church, ministry, or religious group. Actually, many of the points correspond with issues relating to several of the ministries that were reviewed.          

If after reading through this list, you find that many of the points could easily pertain to your church or group, you may wish to take a hard, critical look at the organization to determine whether it is going in the wrong direction. If you conclude that it is, then you need to decide whether to continue being a member. If it seems that most or all of the points apply to your church, you are probably the member of a full-blown abusive cult, which has likely gone beyond restoration without first experiencing a major schism or drastic change in leadership.

Should you leave or stay? You must decide for yourself. Of course, if you have family members, jobs, debts, investments, property, and other tangibles tied up with your membership in that church, voluntarily leaving will not be easy. If that is the case, you may need to do some serious soul searching and time in prayer to determine the best course of action.          

Remember, if you do nothing, the abuse will probably worsen, affecting potentially many others too. You would do well to read extensively on cults and their spiritually abusive techniques. Pray daily that the Almighty will give you the wisdom and discernment to determine the best course of action. Use the resources identified in the recommended reading list below. Even if your particular church or group is not mentioned in the materials you use for your research, you may find information about similar organizations that may apply to yours.         

Keep in mind that cultish groups generally thrive on financial contributions. Without them, they literally would be put out of business. In this sense, money talks. The possibility of losing a significant amount of income might just get the attention of the church leaders, especially if it seemed that several tithe-paying families were to leave the group at the same time. One suggestion is that you might consider putting your intended tithes and offerings into escrow until you have met with the leaders and your concerns are satisfactorily addressed and fully resolved.

If you confront your abusers, correct them with love and gentleness, using the authority of the Scriptures to present your position. Also, it would be best to take two or three witnesses with you, as in 1TI. 5:19. In the end, you must stand for truth and not tolerate lies and falsehoods.          

Make no mistake about it, spiritually abusive leaders will be required in the end to give an account of their misdeeds, as indicated in MAT. 18:6; MARK 9:42; LUKE 17:2. Until then, you can help them and yourself by praying regularly that they would see the errors of their ways and repent before it is too late. And, as hard as it may seem, you must be willing to forgive them for the abuses they perpetrated against you and others. Through forgiveness, you will be able to release your pain and the heartache you feel. Forgiveness is a tool that helps removes obstacles before us. In time, your healing will be complete. You will be ready to move on with your life, ready to serve the Almighty with newly found strength and resolve.          

Much has been written about the spiritual abuse phenomena since the 1990s. Before then, it seemed like only a few authors had addressed the subject. With the wealth of information now available, you would benefit greatly to find and read articles and books that correspond closely to your experience. Even though you might not find anything written specifically about a certain questionable group, you likely will find information about related groups, which may have similar beliefs and practices. Essentially, though, one must determine for himself whether a group's behaviors are abusive or cultish and then determine what to do about it.

A Recommended Reading list, consisting of an annotated bibliography of informative, useful books and articles on the subject, appears down below for your reference. Of the many books perused so far, three in particular stand out as among the best on the subject and deserve a hearty recommendation here:
         

Marc Dupont, author of Toxic Churches, defines abuse as the misuse of power.  "Abuse is always about those with power or authority using their power or authority wrongfully in order to compensate for their fears, hurts and insecurities," he writes.  Much of the pain victims feel comes from their realization that they have been betrayed by someone they once deeply trusted.

However, defining spiritual abuse both fully and succinctly has proved problematic for many of the experts in the field. Authors Johnson and VanVonderen define spiritual abuse as follows: "...the mistreatment of a person who is in need of help, support, or greater spiritual empowerment, with the result of weakening, undermining, or decreasing that person's spiritual empowerment."          

Spiritual abuse is hardly anything new. It happened in Biblical times, and it certainly continues in these times, often going unchecked until too late. According to this author (PariYah), spiritual abuse in "Bible-based" churches is essentially about those in positions of religious authority misusing the Scriptures to deliberately deceive or mistreat their followers, resulting in their loss of spiritual determination, creativity, zeal, and, tragically, even their faith in some instances. Any church that becomes pathologically spiritually abusive has made itself into a dangerous cult by its own destructive behaviors.

Meanwhile, the latter book advances the following definition of a cult, authored at a 1985 conference by the International Cultic Studies Association, formerly the American Family Foundation:

While this may seem like quite a mouthful, essentially this definition establishes that cults are determined strictly by their behaviors, not by their doctrines, their nonconformance with society, or their zeal for proselytization. While such definitions are quite useful for scholars and academics, it is another matter for the lay person who prefers a more common sense approach, as in defining what constitutes enjoyable music or tasty food. For such persons, a cult is essentially what people perceive it to be without relying on complicated definitions. As with the popular saying, "If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, quacks like a duck..." And so it is with defining cults and determining cultishness.

Even though the general public may struggle with precisely defining in words what is cultish, essentially they know it when they see it. Cults typically embrace abusive behaviors while demonstrating an extraordinary level of devotion to their charismatic leaders and their leaders' ideals. Thus, churches that systematically engage in spiritual abuse probably qualify as cults.

Therefore, if those churches would be willing to repent of and renounce their abusive behaviors, they might continue to exist without the stigma of being labeled as cults. For any church to progress truly in accordance with the Scriptures, all cultish tendencies must be permanently eradicated. It is in theirs and everyone’s interest to abolish all spiritual abuse and work toward implementing safeguards to protect against any recurrence of cultish, abusive behaviors within the church.         

Once abusiveness and cultishness have been thoroughly renounced, there must be repentance. It is the obligation of these organizations to seek out those individuals whom they harmed in times past and attempt to undo the damage done to them. Those groups should pray regularly for those persons and ask them for their forgiveness. After repenting of their past misdeeds, they should strongly disavow all abusive and cultish practices, and welcome the victims of their abuse to rejoin them in fellowship. As with Jewish Holocaust survivors, who are accorded great respect among certain Christians who realize that the churches did not do nearly enough to help them in their time of need, so too ought all truth-seeking, Bible-believing congregations lovingly embrace all spiritual abuse victims.         

With each Passover season, special emphasis should be placed on the importance of the elimination of leaven. Leaven symbolizes arrogance, self-exaltation, falsehood, and hypocrisy: the very ingredients that produce instances of spiritual abuse and hatred toward one's neighbor. Matzah, or unleavened bread, symbolizes enduring humility and selflessness, as exemplified by our Master, Yah'shua the Messiah. Following Passover are the seven days of the Feast of Unleavened Bread, or in Hebrew: Chag HaMatzah, LEV. 23:1-14. See also ACTS 20:6; 1CO.5:7-8. This is an excellent time to reflect on the evils of spiritual abusive behaviors and the need for greater humility in the Body of the Messiah, the called-out Messianic believers who live according to the straight and narrow way He taught us. The way of Messiah is contrary to the Pharisaic tendency toward hypocrisy, bitterness, oppressiveness, self-righteousness, and self-exaltation -- essentially, their proclivity for spiritual abusive behaviors, MAT. 23:1-12.

Likewise, the next Biblical festival, Pentecost, or Shavuoth in Hebrew, celebrates the dual giving of the Torah law at Mt. Sinai following the exodus from Egypt and the giving of the Holy Spirit in Jerusalem unto the Apostles following the Messiah’s ascension. Many Christians seem unaware that the commandment to love one's neighbor was established in the Torah, specifically in LEV. 19:17-18. We are also commanded here not to hate our brethren or bear grudges. With the fruits of the Holy Spirit and observance of the Biblical commandments, as given in the Torah, one should be inclined to treat others affectionately and with dignity and honor. Thus, Pentecost, which literally means "50 count," LEV. 23:15-22, also is a Biblical celebration of the freedom given unto us and has special symbolic significance in countering spiritual abuse. The 50-day count to Pentecost, comprising seven weeks of seven and one day, also parallels the 50-year count to the jubilee year, a year of celebrating liberty.  Please also see the article above, "Why 50?"          

Finally, the fall high holy days, LEV. 23:23-44, also convey an annual emphasis on eliminating spiritual abuse. The Day of Blowing of Trumpets, or Yom Teruah, also known erroneously as Rosh Hashana, commemorates the heralding of the Messianic Age, when the Torah shall go forth worldwide as the law of the land. Yom Kippur, or the Day of Atonement, the most solemn day in the Biblical calendar, recalls the importance of a blood sacrifice for our sins. Yah'shua the Messiah died to set us free from sin. How then can we go back to a life of bondage, as occurs under a spiritually abusive system, when we have been set at liberty? During the seven days of Sukkoth, the Feast of Tabernacles and the adjoining eighth day, Shemini Atzereth, believers live together in harmony, representing the peace that will come to this earth during the millennial Kingdom age.         

Indeed, all of the holy festivals are about freedom and drawing closer to our Heavenly Father in holiness. Spiritual abuse is antithetical to the theme of each feast. Overall, it is in opposition to the salvation message of the Scriptures, which teaches us to place our faith in the Messiah’s atoning sacrifice, not in anything man has done. Trust in no man nor his man-made organization for your salvation.  Rather, as Yah'shua said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, but by me," JOHN 14:6. 

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"But evil men and impostors shall wax worse and worse, deceiving and being deceived." 2 Timothy 3:13 ASV

Interviewer: Do you mean damnation for anyone who disagrees with you?

Cult Leader: Don't you have anything better to talk about?

Interviewer: Changing the subject, I was curious which personal titles you use for yourself in your ministry and how these titles were conferred upon you.

Cult Leader: As far as I'm concerned, you may just call me "Sir." I would also appreciate you showing me a little more respect -- or were you never taught to respect your elders?

Interviewer: Something I was hoping you could provide is a detailed, itemized, audited annual financial statement showing how the contributions your church received were actually spent.

Interviewer: Some have described your church as a hate group in which contempt is preached against former members and those of other churches in the same movement. Some also said that you were profoundly paranoid about people trying to come in and take over the leadership from you. How do you respond to these allegations?

Cult Leader: Good grief, do you really think I am ignorant of Satan’s devices? I know you just want to make unfounded accusations against me and provoke me to anger. Is that what you’re trying to do? Listen, if you want to end up in Gehenna and burn with the rest of them, that’s your choice. But don’t say I didn’t warn you! So you think I have a hate problem? Let me come out and just admit it: I utterly hate dealing with people like you. I just hate it when sniveling, snotty nosed people like you come asking me questions. There, how's that for an answer?

Interviewer: How can you defend such an attitude if you’re considered "an end-time prophet of truth" and "the one true prophet on earth" as your followers claim? Where is your humility and your forgiving Messiah-like love for others?

Literature on the warning signs of spiritual abuse often cite 1PE. 5:1-3 as a passage that specifically speaks on this subject. Here, in the beginning of the chapter, we find an admonition addressed to the elders among you. In this passage, the Apostle Peter speaks against the temptation to abuse the power that comes inherently as shepherd over the flock. Instead, he exhorts the elders to live a life of leadership by example.

"The elders which are among you I exhort, who am also an elder, and a witness of the sufferings of Messiah, and also a partaker of the glory that shall be revealed: ²Feed the flock of YHWH which is among you, taking the oversight thereof, not by constraint, but willingly; not for filthy lucre, but of a ready mind; ³Neither as being masters over those entrusted to you, but being ensamples (examples) to the flock." (1PE. 5:1-3, RNKJV)

Here in the Restored Name King James Version, the translators chose the word "masters" in verse 3 to indicate what the Apostle Peter specifically wanted the elders NOT to become. Many versions in verse 3 use some variant of "lord" instead, such as "being lords over" or "lording it over." Among some of the other translations are "dictator over," and "despots over."

On closer examination, it may be that "despot" conveys a hint of spiritual abuse more so than the other word choices. From Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary, 2^nd Ed., the following definitions appear for "despot":

2. An absolute ruler; autocrat; now, usually a tyrant.

Interestingly, the word "despot" formerly referred to those in high religious positions. Whereas, the word may have had a neutral connotation in the past, the dictionary entry leaves no doubt that the word now has a implicit derogatory implication. As used in the Scriptures, the word is #2634 in Strong's Greek Concordance: katakurieuo. Vine's Expository Dictionary of Old and New Testament Words defines this word with particular candor and insight:

"... to exercise, or gain, dominion, R.V., lord it, Mark 10:42, A.V., exercise lordship, R.V. lord it; (b) the power of demons over men, Acts 19:16, A.V. overcome, R.V. mastered (c) of the evil of elders in lording it over the saints under their spiritual care, 1 Pet. 5:3."

From these meanings, it is clear that "lording it over" conveys more than a simple abuse of power and position but an oppressive spiritual abuse from those in positions of authority, likened even to demons' attempts to dominate and control, as exhibited in Paul's encounter with the seven sons of Sceva, ACTS 19:13-16. Here, those who are victimized by this demonic control end up fleeing "naked and wounded." So often, this is the figurative result of those who are the victims of despotic spiritual abuse: left stripped of their confidence and crushed in the spirit.

From the discourse in 1PE. 5, a troubling question arises. Could some of the same types of spiritual abuse as exercised by the constantly troublesome Pharisees and Sadducees, and condemned repeatedly by the Messiah in His ministry, have made inroads into the Nazarene community of the 1^st Century? If so, how could this have happened?

A clue to how this leavened brew came about is indicated further in the passage, beginning in verse 5, as the emphasis shifts to humility and being subject one to another.

"Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for YHWH resisteth the proud, and giveth favor to the humble. ⁶Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of YHWH, that he may exalt you in due time: ⁷Casting all of your care upon him; for he careth for you." (1PE. 5:5-7 RNKJV)

Was there humility lacking among some in leadership positions? It seems that often this is the case when one is entrusted with authority: a leavened attitude sets in leading to pride and arrogance. Not following in the Master's example, did they instead begin to lord over the flock, making themselves lords and masters? Their pride and desire for exaltation, however, would be their undoing. Beginning in verse 8, Peter clearly identifies the danger to those who have not heeded the warning:

"Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: ⁹Whom resist steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world. ¹⁰But the Elohim of all favor, who hath called us unto our eternal glory by Messiah Yah'shua, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, (e)stablish, strengthen, settle you." (1PE. 5:8-10 RNKJV)

Humility is essential for leaders to avoid becoming spiritually abusive. It seems that the lack of humility makes one especially susceptible to the Devil's insatiable appetite. Can it be that those who seek the exaltation of men – rather than from Above, as noted in verse 6 – have made themselves vulnerable to the Adversary’s control? We are to resist, rather than submit to, spiritually abusive satanic control and remain steadfast in the Faith. Indeed, from verse 9, it seems that all those of the household of faith can expect such tests.

To those who have suffered the humiliation and betrayal that comes with being spiritually abused, this passage also speaks with comfort and hope. In verse 7, the apostle reminds believers to cast their cares upon the one who is our true Master, On High, because He cares for us – unlike those who exploit the flock for their own self-aggrandizement. Those who remain faithful to their calling have the promise in verse 4 of an everlasting reward:

Truly, this is our eternal hope. And for those whose spiritual abuse has ravaged the flock and destroyed the faith of some, they also may be assured that their "reward" is coming too – as promised in MAT. 18:6-7, MARK 9:42, LUKE 17:1-2.  To those who have used religion to abuse others, now is the time to repent and make amends for the damage they have done.

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"Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thy heart...Thou shalt not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people; but thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself...." Leviticus 19:17-18 ASV

"There is an evil which I have seen under the sun, as an error which proceedeth from the ruler." ECC. 10:5 KJV

In all his wisdom, King Solomon envisaged the effects of wayward leadership. When those in authority depart from the balanced, Scriptural way of governing others to imposing their own subjective rulership standards, bad things naturally follow.

Regrettably, Solomon's own unScriptural oppressive taxation and tolerance for foreign idolatry led to disastrous consequences following his reign: particularly, the division between the houses of Judah, which also comprised Benjamin and much of Levi, and the 10 remaining tribes of Israel, often called collectively by their leading tribe, Ephraim. In time, these 10 tribes were referred to as "the Lost Tribes of Israel" whereas the House of Judah became known as the Jews, or the Jewish people. For the most part, unlike the House of Judah, the House of Ephraim lost its identity as it intermingled with Gentile peoples and spread out throughout the earth. Thousands of years later, this split remains unhealed to this day.

Jewish tradition says that the reunification of the tribes of Israel will occur in the days of the Messiah. The Bible foretells that in the end times, both houses of Israel will be reunited into one with righteous shepherds set over it, EZK. 37:15-28; JER. 23:1-8. If there is to be peace on earth, the divisions and resentments between the tribes must be healed so that unity can prevail. When the final trumpet is sounded, the Kingdom of Heaven will be established under the King of Kings, the Prince of Peace, Yah'shua HaMashiach. But as the world now stands, does mankind really desire peace?  

Tragically, the history of the two houses of Israel has been mostly unpleasant down to modern times. As the sons of Jacob frequently quarreled among themselves, so too have the Israelite nations of the world have fought and contended with each other over the centuries. It seems hatred has kept the tribes mostly divided, even at enmity at times. In time, this hatred will come to an end as the restoration between both houses is complete. "The envy also of Ephraim shall depart, and the adversaries of Judah shall be cut off: Ephraim shall not envy Judah, and Judah shall not vex Ephraim." ISA. 11:13 KJV.

It would seem this prophecy extends beyond a general level to an individual level. Although elements within both Judah and Ephraim may acknowledge the same Elohim (YHWH) and some may even recognize the same Messiah (Yah'shua), divisions still persist, many of them petty. Perhaps you have even witnessed some of them for yourself. At times, these schisms have become spiteful, pitting organizations, congregations, and believers against one another. Often, this acrimony is rooted in a particular leader's pet teachings or is a product of his overactive paranoia. In the end, the people suffer as a result. 

Too often in these times, unrighteous shepherds have been given leadership positions, not only in the churches but in the secular world. The Scriptures and the way of life they teach are disregarded for humanism, exotic philosophies, and esoteric teachings -- whose origins are typically rooted in New Age occultism and pagan beliefs. The Almighty views these wayward teachings not only as idolatry but as rebellion against Him. It was as if they had switched their loyalties to Satan, the Accuser of the Brethren. Needless to say, those who stray from the Scriptures into such teachings are trespassing upon dangerous ground!

In 1SA. 15:22-26, King Saul disobeyed the instructions the prophet Samuel relayed from On High. In so doing, he was rejected from being king over Israel. "For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry," v. 23. Although he still remained in his position as king for several more years, his remaining years of rulership were marked by recurring bouts of jealousy, madness, hatred, and compulsive obsession. Because of his condition, all Israel suffered.

Interestingly, in view of Samuel's prophetic words, Saul's  rebellion ended up turning into witchcraft -- specifically necromancy: attempting communication with the dead. After consulting the witch of En-dor in 1SA. 28, he died in battle soon thereafter, committing suicide to escape capture. Thus, Saul, in trying to commune with the dead, ended up taking his place among the dead. His life's story continues to serve as a witness of what happens when believers turn from the faith.

When believers reject the Word to do things their own selfish way, tragedy follows.

In Bible-based independent churches, too often King Saul's example is followed -- with disastrous consequences. Church leaders impose their own dictates, contrary to the Scriptures. For those who are unwilling to follow these man-made teachings and traditions, they are often made out to be rebels against authority. In the civil strife that ensues within the church, these pariahs are often smeared behind closed doors and targeted for hateful gossip among the congregation, 1TI. 5:13. Not surprisingly, many walk out and leave, unwilling to be subjected to further abuse. For those who remain, the attacks will likely continue until their resistance has been broken.

In several instances, the Bible figuratively refers to the body of believers as the chosen bride and to churches or religions as women. When the Scriptures warn of seductive, enticing women -- often calling them harlots -- it speaks allegorically of the dangers of wayward religion. Despite his own spiritual shortcomings, Solomon warned of such:

"And I find more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, and whose hands are bands: whoso pleaseth Elohim shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her," ECC. 7:26 RNKJV.

The preaching of brotherly hatred, as opposed to fraternal love, is the sign of a church that has fallen into the depths of spiritual abuse, 1JN. 2:9-11. Not only is it a violation of YHWH's Law, LEV. 19:17, but hate is used as a mechanism to control members under the leader's absolute authority. Essentially, the leader will in various ways direct the congregation to be contemptuous toward those members who do not follow his dictates. Victims of hatred among brethren typically have two choices: leave or rally the other members to their side in an effort to defeat this hate-based dogma.

Regrettably, some Bible-based churches with noble beginnings have succumbed to a doctrine of hate, wherein certain people find themselves designated for contempt. These targeted people may be current members, suspended members, former members, members of other churches, people of other ideologies, and even people of other religions, races, and nationalities. When such doctrines become the prevailing creed in a church's belief system, that church has become a hate group. Thus, legalistic, controlling churches obsessed with expelling those not lockstep under their control will use the tactics of hate to remove any dissidents.

If the congregation has been passive toward other forms of spiritual abuse, chances are members will not rise up in opposition. The congregation likely has already been mind controlled into accepting abuse as normal and to look down in derision on anyone who questions church authority. If this is the case with church, it is probably best to leave and not look back. Regardless of what has been lost, gaining freedom from an abusive scenario has a way of reinvigorating new life into a person.

However, if the congregation truly has a Berean attitude, whereas everything must be done decently and in order in accordance with the Scriptures, ACTS 17:10-11, 1CO. 14:40, then those who engage in perpetrating hatred among the brethren must be confronted. Of course, if the source of the hatred is the leader, such a confrontation may not go easy. 1TI. 5:19 indicates that two or three witnesses are to present when such an accusation must be made. If the leader refuses to acknowledge his hatred and will not repent of it, the congregation may need to remove him from his position. Any attempt to do so likely will be met with strong resistance and may result in a deeply wounded divided congregation.

Sadly, the doctrines of hate may have long-lasting effects on those susceptible to such teachings. Abuse victims often become abusers themselves. Hurt people hurt people. That which  they despise is that which they become. Those who have been indoctrinated into believing that it is permissible to be hateful toward others under certain circumstances have been poisoned in mind. One must lovingly use the Scriptures, prayer, and the power of the Holy Spirit to help heal them.

It would seem that this doctrine of hate was prevalent in Yah'shua's time as some wished to justify their resentment for the Samaritans, a foreign people in the Holy Land whose belief system was Biblically based and similar to that of the Jews. However, the Jews looked upon the Samaritan as heretical. Thus, these people were treated as outcasts, much like believers of other congregations, churches, and denominations are treated today. Being fellow believers, though, should we not consider these others as brethren, not just as neighbors, and treat them accordingly with love and respect?

To hate our fellow believer -- our brother or sister in the faith -- is to deny our Heavenly Father's love. Such hatred is nothing short of self-righteousness at its worst. Such blasphemy may even qualify as the unpardonable sin, MAT. 10:22, 12:32; MARK 3:29; LUKE 12:10; JOHN 14:26, 20:22-23.   

Hatred, of course, is not just a product of an abusive system; ultimately it originates in the emotions and thoughts of the individual. For instance, the Almighty called upon Cain to be accountable for the care of his brother, GEN. 4:9. Despite being corrected from On High, he persisted in his self-centered rage. In this chapter, we see where Cain went from being "very angry" to rising up and killing his brother. After his evil deed was exposed, he was driven away. So too ought those who harbor unforsaken anger and hatred in their hearts toward their brethren be expelled and driven out of the community of believers, ROM. 16:17; 2TH. 3:6.

It seems that hatred has a way of clouding the mind so that one will no longer accept correction from Above. When hate is confronted with the Bible, typically the response is to attack the messenger, as in the Parable of the Vineyard and the Husbandmen, MAT. 21:33-41; MARK 12:1-9; LUKE 20:9-16. Hatred produces rebellion against the Most High and His Torah way. 

In LUKE 10:25-37, a person educated in matters of law asked Yah'shua what was required to inherit eternal life. Yah'shua responded with a question, asking him what was written in the Law (the Torah). In accordance with the teachings of the Pharisee School of Hillel, he replied by citing the two greatest commandments: love Elohim and love your neighbor. These two commandments are cited in the Torah in DEU. 6:4-9 and LEV. 19:18. When asked to identify who qualified as a "neighbor," Yah'shua told the parable of the Good Samaritan. Here, it would seem that Yah'shua was saying that differences in belief should not hinder people from treating each other with compassion and kindness.

The Messiah reaffirmed in MAT. 22:34-40 that the Scriptures rest on these two commandments: to love YHWH to love one's neighbor. Whereas many who consider themselves religious would say that they have a devoted love for the Almighty. However, they may feel differently when it comes to fulfilling the second great commandment: to love one's neighbor as one's self. Not only are we  commanded in LEV. 19:18 to love our neighbors but also not to take vengeance or bear grudges against them. True love precludes hatefulness.

"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love will last forever...." 1CO. 13:4-8a NLT

Interestingly, people often do not realize that to keep the greatest commandment, to love the Almighty with all their essence, they must first keep the second great commandment, to love their neighbor as themselves, as expounded in 1JN. 2:9-11, 4:7-8, 4:20-21. Some may even recite the Sh'ma, DEU. 6:4-6, two or three times daily, as practiced in Judaism, but not realize that their words are in vain without first having a love for their neighbor. Fraternal hatred is simply unacceptable to the Most High. How can someone justify treating their fellow believer worse than an enemy? Not only are we told to love our brethren and our neighbors, but we are also commanded to show love unto our enemies and even pray for them, PRV. 25:21-22; MAT. 5:44; LUKE 6:27,35.

Conversely, one area in which we are actually encouraged to be hateful is found in ROM. 12:9-10 NIV, "Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves."

For lovers of good, evil is to be hated, AMOS 5:15, "Hate the evil, and love the good, and establish judgment in the gate: it may be that YHWH Elohim of hosts will be gracious unto the remnant of Joseph." RNKJV

Regarding the Jezebel Spirit, Masonic Illuminist and occult practicioner-turned Messianic believer William Schnoebelen, whose spiritual warfare books are also listed below in the Recommended Reading section, says this demonic spirit classically manifests itself in "...women who are either normal or genuine Believers in Yah'shua who try to usurp authority, either in the home or in the church or elsewhere." He adds, "If not overtly, then behind the scenes, they will want to totally run the show or there will be 'hell to pay.'" (Source: "Jezebel Eruptions," The Liberator newsletter, Vol. 17, No. 1, p. 3).

Apparently, the assembly in Thyatira in REV. 2:18-29 had a serious "Jezebel problem." Those who embraced this spirit were forthrightly condemned.  It would seem that Jezebel is relentless in her mission to spiritually destroy the Almighty's servants.

In that Jezebel sought to kill Elijah in 1KG. 19:2, we can presume that the Jezebel Spirit will rise up against the Elijah ministry at the end of the age and those looking with excited anticipation for the Messiah's coming, MAL. 4:5-6. Elijah's response to Jezebel's threat was to retreat into the wilderness, evidently to Mt. Sinai, to place himself under the protection of the Almighty's presence. Thus, we see that Jezebel spirits will endeavor to silence YHWH's ministers and put them to flight.

Later, in 2KG. 9:22-37, with Elijah gone from the scene, Jezebel continued to vex the northern kingdom of Israel with her "whoredoms" and "many witchcrafts." After she "painted her eyes" and attired herself seductively in her  unsuccessful attempt to entice righteous King Jehu, she was confronted and cast down to a blood-splattered death. Likewise, every Jezebel spirit demonic stronghold must be viewed for what it is, not the illusion it presents, and cast down in defeat by using the Scriptural authority given to us.

Dr. Keyton speaks in further detail on the nature of the Jezebel spirit in her book Jezebel vs. Elijah (pages 74-80):

• "Jezebel dominates others by her vanity, hatred, disdain, insecurity and jealousy. She publicly humiliates others, including spouses. With the tongue she wrecks, demeans and destroys. Through character assassination, she makes others fearful of her sharp tongue, willing to compromise in order to avoid the tongue-lashings.

• "Rebellion plays a key role with Jezebel. She sows seeds of unrest. She lives in conflict. She tries to control, arrange, and dominate everyone around her. She keeps others in a state of turmoil. Jezebel often targets women who are embittered against men.

• "Jezebel usurps authority. There may be displays of intense anger and fits thrown to manipulate and control. She will flatter her victims first to win them over, then treacherously turns against them."

• "Jezebel attacks suddenly, without warning. She is vicious, unrelenting, and pitiless, and she is an exceptionally fine actor. But remember, she won't live with anyone she can't dominate."

The traitor and thief, Judas Iscariot, also was one whose wanton condition eventually led to Satan entering into him and directing his actions, LUKE 22:3-6. In the end, he, like Jezebel, was cast down to a gruesome bloody death, ACTS 1:16-20.

Before becoming the world's first murderer, Cain was warned that he not only must control sinful thoughts but to "do what is right," GEN. 4:7 NIV. When his anger was exposed, he should have immediately repented. Instead, he sarcastically retorted "Am I my brother's keeper?" One's words often reveal what is in his heart, MAT. 12:31-37, 15:16-20; MARK 7:20-23; LUKE 6:45. In this case, we see the deadly fruits of his hateful attitude.

When examining the Scriptures for those who became consumed with hatred, it is evident that they generally did not fare well in their condition. Among those Biblical figures whose words exhibited hatefulness or rebellion against YHWH and His chosen people were Korah, Goliath, Absalom, Jezebel, Rabshakeh, and Haman. Each of the members of this motley assortment of Bible villains met with a sudden and violent death as YHWH exacted His vengeance against each one.

In addition, Saul's daughter Michal essentially cursed herself with barreness for the rest of her life when she spoke spitefully against her husband, King David, 2SA. 6:16-23. The text states "she despised him in her heart." How did David respond? Some commentators have suggested that instead of her being struck from On High with barrenness, David henceforth separated himself from her for the rest of her life. In essence, she was exiled away from the king's presence. In a spiritual sense, this is akin to being cast into outer darkness, MAT. 22:11-14.

The book of Proverbs warns repeatedly against dwelling with a contentious woman, PRV. 21:9,19, 25:25, 27:15.  Such a condition is even compared to the crippling effects of bone cancer, PRV. 12:4. Perhaps knowing this, David realized the necessity of staying away from her.

Likewise, it is probably best to stay away from churches, religious groups, and perhaps even certain individuals who have developed a severe attitude problem. "Shall two walk together, except they have agreed?" AMOS 3:3 ASV. Hateful attitudes are contagious and extremely destructive. Separate yourself from such defilement.

A hate-filled person makes himself known by his words, PRV. 26:20-28. Unable to contain their hatred, they will spread gossip, slander, accusations, defamation, propaganda, and outright lies against those whom they despise. When encountering such behavior, rebuke that person and admonish him. If the person refuses correction, you might do as the Archangel Michael in Jude 9 who responded to the Devil's contentions by simply saying "May the Almighty rebuke you."  

Being subjected to hatred from others is a fulfillment of prophecy, MAT. 10:16-23; 24:10; LUKE 6:22-23, 21:17. In that the world hated its Savior, JOHN 7:7, 15:18-19, 15:23-25, 17:14; 1JN. 3:13; it should come as no surprise that His followers will be despised and mistreated for their Biblical faith, even by friends, family members, and people who at one time professed to love them. What is especially saddening, though, is when fellow believers forsake the Scriptures and the Messiah's righteous example and turn on one another in hatred.

This hatred ultimately will lead to betrayal and even death by the persecutors. Already in these times we have seen where "lawlessness (Torahlessness) shall be multiplied" and "the love of the many shall grow cold," MAT. 24:12-13. But he that is able to endure these things -- mistreatment, hatred, betrayal, etc. -- to the end shall be saved.

In his latter books, the Apostle John warns of the coming of the Anti-Messiah, both in spirit and in body. We are to be wary of those who forsake the love of the Father and the Son. Like Judas, they have gone out from us, 1JN. 2:19. Without love for one another, these false brethren failed to meet the test of true discipleship: "By this shall all men know that you are my disciples, if you have love one to another," JOHN 13:35. 

Nevertheless, there are those who in defense of their hatred toward others will point to such Scriptures as PSA. 5:5, 26:5, 31:6, 101:3, 119:113, 139:21-22; MAL. 1:1-4. Meanwhile, they ignore passages such as LEV. 19:17-18 and MAT. 5:43-44 that  tell that we are not to hate our brother, and that we are to love our neighbor and  even our enemies. Here, the Messiah corrected the misconception that hating one's enemies was permissible under the Torah. Of course, in passages such as PSA. 97:10; PRV. 8:13; and AMOS 5:15, we should not equate hating evil with hating others. Rather, one should hate the evil inclination within them, not them personally.

Many of these passages, especially those in the wisdom books of Psalms and Proverbs, speak metaphorically. In the case of MAL. 1:3, a literal translation of this verse reads "but Esau I have loved less (rather than "hated" as found in many translations), and have made his mountains a desolation and his inheritance for the jackals in the desert." Despite Esau's pronounced threats against him, Jacob returned his brother's hatred with kindness and complimentary words, GEN. 33:1-15.

Sadly, there always seem to be some who attempt to twist certain Scriptures to justify their hateful racial bigotry, contrary to GAL. 3:28. Without my going into the subject in depth here, suffice it to say that the Bible, when understood properly, teaches nothing of the sort. On the contrary, YHWH's chosen people Israel were to be lights unto the Gentiles (Greek: ethnos, meaning nations or ethnic groups), proclaiming the worship of the Mighty One of Israel to the world by their righteous example.

Engendering hatred against fellow believers is probably the worst witness one can give of his faith. In short, it is counter-productive to YHWH's message of love to the world. How can a believer justify his hatred toward others?

In conclusion, without question, hatred among brethren is unacceptable to our Heavenly Father. Those who teach, encourage, and practice such behavior must be confronted toward repentance. Their salvation depends on it, per 1JN. 3:15. However, if they refuse to accept correction and change their attitude, they likely should be shunned lest their hatred becomes contagious. Furthermore, those in leadership positions who espouse hatred among brethren must be removed and their errant teachings repudiated and eradicated. Or, in simple terms, the house must be swept clean of this leavened corruption so that the Almighty Himself will not need to perform the house-cleaning in His wrath, EZK. 9:4-10.

Bitterness, pride, envy, strife, hatred, and unrighteous anger are forms of spiritual leaven and must be cast out. This act is symbolically performed each year before the Feast of Unleavened Bread, a commanded Biblical feast that has gone almost totally neglected in Christianity. Is it any wonder that in some churches this spiritual leaven never seems to go away?

Moreover, as reformers cleansed the Jerusalem Temple of defilements in Biblical times, each of us has a duty to keep our personal temples, as in 1CO. 6:19, free of such uncleanness that hinders us from drawing closer to our Father on High. In so doing, we show our devoted love to Him. See PSA. 69:9; JOHN 2:13-17.

Finally, so there is no misunderstanding, this article was not written specifically to condemn or judge anyone, whether a fellow believer or church leader. Rather, it is intended as words of instruction for situations such as this and encouragement to all who have been victims of it. To everyone who reads this, I say: put away any hatred and spiteful accusations you have against others and allow Holy Spirit-engendered love of the brethren to prevail. If you are bearing grudges, hating your neighbor, and spreading slander and lies, you are doing something that YHWH specifically despises, PRV. 6:16-19, 12:18-22. Woe unto the hateful in heart!

Lovingly use the Scriptures to confront both leaders and teachers who spew abusive doctrines and also those fellow believers who embrace hatred in their hearts. A house divided against itself cannot stand, MAT. 12:25. In all things, let us unite in following the Messiah's example and be a witness to the world of His coming righteous Kingdom, ROM. 12:9-21; EPH. 4:29-32; COL. 3:8; 1TH. 4:9-12; HEB. 13:1; 1PE. 1:22.         

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We see here that the teaching of Balaam -- to commit spiritual adultery -- is likened to the teachings of the Nicolaitans. The word Nicolaitans denotes "victory over the people." How did they gain this victory over the people? Apparently, a perversion of the Bible's glad tidings was taught where people were encouraged to live "Lawlessly," or in opposition to the Torah, under the guise of prophetic illumination, 2PE. 2:1-2. 

Sadly, when teachers of the Scriptures enjoin believers to engage in pagan or occultic practices, they bring calamity upon themselves. Introducing such "destructive heresies" brings a reproach against the Truth and divisions within the body of believers.

From Balaam's example, we see that a true prophet or teacher can be subverted by his own desire for lucre or self aggrandizement. With one's own words can come goodness or evil. In Balaam's case, his words resulted in the deaths of 24,000 Israelites, NUM. 25:9. Even more would have died if not for the righteous act of Phinehas the priest, who acted quickly and decisively to put a stop to the sin coming into the camp. His action prevented the spread of a curse.

Strangely, some misguided believers may point to Balaam’s example to justify their own involvement with various New Age, Qabalistic, and other occultic practices. Interestingly, the word rendered "divination" in NUM. 23:23 is Strong’s Hebrew #7081 qecem, which is also translated elsewhere as "witchcraft." The same word appears in DEU. 18:10 in the Torah’s prohibition against occultic practices.

Dr. Prince defines divination as follows: "Divination is the knowledge branch of the occult, including all kinds of revelation that claims a non-Christian spiritual source. Its commonest form is fortune-telling, offering supernatural knowledge of the future. It also includes astrology, automatic writing, cabala, "channeling," clairaudience (hearing voices), clairvoyance, crystal ball gazing, diagnosis by color therapy or a pendulum, divining, ESP, handwriting analysis, horoscopes, iridology, mediums, mind reading, numerology, omens, palmistry, phrenology, seances, tarot cards, tea leaf reading, telepathy, and "witching," as well as all books that teach occult practices."

Those who engage in these forbidden activities are pronounced "an abomination unto YHWH," DEU. 18:12. Furthermore, under YHWH’s commandments, they are to be put away from among the people, EXD. 22:18; DEU. 13:6-11. Thus, we see that one is cursed for dabbling in these forbidden practices -- and in so doing has even invited death upon himself.

To claim to be a true believer while also practicing witchcraft and the dark arts, which the Almighty has expressly forbidden, is heretical, anti-Torah, and anti-YHWH. One cannot serve two masters: Yah’shua, the Light of the World, and Satan, the prince of darkness.

Despite what the Scriptures expressly teach on the subject, it seems there are self-proclaimed Scripturally based teachers, pastors, and rabbis who, incredibly, promote certain occultic practices as acceptable. Evidently, they justify these practices as corresponding to the Urim and Thummim, EXD. 28:30, NUM. 27:21, worn by the High Priest and used anciently by Israel’s rulers to inquire of YHWH’s judgment, especially during periods of national crisis or when there was no prophet to consult, as in 1SA. 28:6. While this specific tool was imparted to Israel as a part of the service of the Tabernacle, and later Temple, by no means was it something to be used trivially or for personal fortune telling. Moreover, it certainly was not something to which the common people had access.

Although Balaam may have been considered a true prophet before his encounter with Balak, in the end it seems he succumbed, so to say, to the "dark side." While he was specifically told not to speak prophetically, or divine, against Israel, the Bible makes clear that this is in effect what he did – and presumably was paid handsomely as a prophet for hire for doing so. The Bible's teaching about the love of money being the root of all kinds of evil, 1TI. 6:10, surely is demonstrated here.

Interestingly, the NUM. 22-24 narrative between Balaam and Balak leaves off at Peor, a place presumably of abominable paganism. Had Balaam avoided this place, perhaps he never would have uttered the words he was prohibited from speaking. Likewise, it would seem that if YHWH’s people will avoid all semblances of pagan practices, they also will avert curses from coming upon themselves and instead receive blessings for obedience. As is commonly said nowadays, "Don’t even go there!"

Dr. Bree Keyton, in her spiritual warfare manual Stripes, Nails, Thorns, and the Blood (San Diego, CA: Black Forest Press, 2002, 28 pages), says the following about those who embrace occultism:

"It is well known that many people enter the world of the occult seeking power. Often the person feels angry and restricted by the commandments of a holy (Elohim). When a person dabbles in the occult, it can stem from ignorance, or it can be generated by defiance against what they have been taught; however the end result is that it fosters rebellion against the one true (Elohim), YHWH. The person will be defiled and embittered through this (unrighteous) link, by the filth of whoring after other gods. Eventually their conscience becomes SEARED BY A HOT IRON (emphasis author's), and they no longer can distinguish between right and wrong, so that wrong actually seems right to them."

"Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron." 1TI. 4:1-2 KJV

Sadly, it seems that such people have so much scar tissue over their hearts that they have become insensitive to what the Scriptures tell them. Their own feelings and subjective opinions become more important as they justify their actions. In the end, they do that which seems right in their eyes, as in JDG. 21:25, bringing judgment upon themselves.

Some justify their condition as having resulted from past emotional wounds. Instead of turning to YHWH for comfort and healing, they become bitter and vindictive.

When one is specifically called to obey YHWH’s commands and affirms that he will do so, to do otherwise is rebellion. In 1SA. 15:22-23, the prophet Samuel declares to King Saul that rebellion is equated in YHWH’s eyes with qecem: witchcraft,

"And Samuel said, Has YHWH as great delight in burnt-offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of YHWH? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams. For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as idolatry and teraphim. Because you have rejected the word of YHWH, he has also rejected you from being king." (ASV, updated)

Is it any wonder that the end of Saul’s reign was fraught with tragedy? Ironically, the night before his death, he sought out and consulted the witch of En-dor, 1SA. 28, confirming his rebellion against YHWH’s Torah and sealing his own judgment.

When believers act in disobedience to the Torah, they not only invite a curse upon themselves but may also provoke YHWH’s anger. When people speak things they ought not say, they curse themselves with their own words. In so doing, they bring unnecessary trouble and hardship into their lives. It may seem like they are living from one calamity after another, unaware that this vicious cycle will only continue until the curse is removed.

If one is living under a curse, what can be done to set himself free?

Using the example in MARK 16:66-72 where Peter denied Yah'shua three times while in the court of the High Priest, it would seem that Yah'shua reinstated Peter to His Apostolic position in JOHN 21:15-17 when He asked him three times whether he loved Him. For each one of his denials, Peter was led by Yah'shua to undo his words with a proper confession.

In Blessings and Curses, Dr. Prince comments on this unusual incident: "This establishes a pattern for all who need to be released from the snare of a bad confession. We must repent, revoke, and replace. First, we must acknowledge that we have spoken wrong words and repent of them. Second, we must unsay, or cancel, what was wrong. Third, we must replace our previous wrong confession with the right one. These three steps, taken in faith, can release us from the snare."

Yah'shua died under a curse by being hanged on a tree, DEU. 21:23. Through His death, He exchanged the curse of the Law so that we may receive its blessings. And, as stated in 2CO. 8:9, He became poor for our sakes that we might become rich: endowed with blessings innumerable. As we read through the book of Revelation, we see repeatedly where YHWH's faithful ones are called "blessed." YHWH wishes to richly reward His servants for their faithfulness. 

Satan would have us believe that we are trapped within curses of sin and beyond being blessed. In the name of Yah'shua, however, we have authority over Satan and can break any curses that are holding us back from the freedom in which YHWH wishes for us to live. The key to living a blessed life of liberty is to repent of our sins, embrace obedience, and turn each one to YHWH with all of his heart, giving thanks always for all He has done for us.   

To avoid being cursed by others, it is best to strive to remain at peace with everyone if possible, ROM. 12:18. But, as in PSA. 120:7, it seems that there are always some who are not inclined to be peaceable. Modern-day witches, wizards, warlocks, and Satanists are known to target believers with curses and spells intended to cause division and destruction. In such instances, the believer must put on the garments of a spiritual warrior to defend himself from the onslaught of such attacks:

"Finally, be strong in (YHWH), and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of (Elohim), that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world-rulers of this darkness, against the spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Wherefore take up the whole armor of (Elohim), that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and, having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your loins with truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; with all taking up the shield of faith, wherewith you shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the evil one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of (Elohim)," EPH. 6:10-17 (ASV, updated)

To defeat the power of curses, it is essential that we use the sword, the Word of YHWH, to cut away at lies, deceptions, and religious traditions to reveal truth. While we should attack agents of the Devil with the sword, Dr. Keyton also urges that we should fight using the fruits of the Spirit and allow this power from On High to bring conviction to those who oppose us. The Bible should never be used to browbeat and belittle others. Rather, it should be used to help heal them of their sinful condition. Within the Bible lies the authority to defeat the Adversary.

"Behold, how good and pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!" As indicated in PSA. 133, YHWH’s blessing is upon brethren who dwell together in unity. The effect is like the refreshing of the earth in the spring and the renewal of life throughout the land.

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"Blessed are you when men shall reproach you, and persecute you, and say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be very glad: for great is your reward in heaven; for so persecuted they the prophets that were before you." Matthew 5:11-12

Many zealous believers who have sought a deeper knowledge of the Almighty and His ways found it necessary to leave mainstream churches behind -- only to find themselves later in churches with abuse and control issues. They pressed onward only to discover that they had been beguiled by the deceptions and delusions of a self-proclaimed prophet, learning later on that he was a mere charlatan looking to make a name for himself at others' expense. Such is the road one takes when he has a burning desire to draw closer to the Almighty.

Following such disappointments, sadly some victims have then become wary of anyone and everyone who claims to be an inspired preacher with a unique message. They shut themselves off from every ministry. In so doing, they in effect starve themselves from fresh insights into the Scriptures. Over time, that consuming hunger to live by every Word that they once possessed succumbs to complacency.

This is the devastation wrought by false prophets and teachers of the Word. By their falsehoods, they cause burning flames to diminish and even become extinguished over time. Satan is allowed to triumph once again because the body of believers did not use the sword of the Word to test the spirits. Through the Scriptures, a prophet is to be put to the test to determine whether his anointing is of YHWH or whether he is a fraud. In Biblical times, false prophets, arrogantly prophesying in the Name of the Almighty, were to be disregarded. Those who prophesied in the names of false gods were to be executed, DEU. 18:20-22.

This article will examine how to Scripturally discern false prophets. We will review the examples given of both true and false prophets and learn not to make the same mistakes as did our spiritual ancestors when they disregarded true counsel and heeded false advice.

While we can expect that the Adversary will attempt to overthrow our faith at various times in life, we also have the assurance that if we live by the Scriptures, our enemy can never defeat us, 2TI. 3:12-17; ROM. 8:37-39. Our endeavor is to "Be Berean," ACTS 17:11, and search out the Word to direct our lives.

We begin our search in the Torah, the five books of Moses, which provides five tests of a true prophet (or prophetess):

1. A true prophet must be one of your brethren, DEU. 18:18.

2. The true prophet prophesies in the authority given in the name of YHWH, as in delivering the prophecy as a "Thus says YHWH" statement, DEU. 18:19-20.

3. What the prophet prophesies must come true, DEU. 18:21-22.

4. A prophet must perform signs, wonders, and miracles to give credence to his words, DEU. 13:1-2.

5. Everything prophesied must conform to the Word of YHWH, DEU. 13:2-5. Thus, a prophet who engages in divination and other forms of the black arts, the occult, cannot be a true prophet, DEU. 18:10-14. Furthermore, if a so-called prophet speaks against the Torah (YHWH's Law), he has disqualified himself from his office.

In Hebrew, two words are primarily used for "prophet":

• Nabiy', from Strong's H5030, meaning a prophet or an inspired man; a spokesman, speaker, prophet, false prophet; from H5012, naba, a prime root meaning to speak or sing by inspiration, to prophesy, to make self a prophet.

• Nataph, a prime root, meaning by implication to fall in drops, to speak by inspiration, to ooze, distill gradually.

The word "seer" also is used to refer to a prophet.

• Ra'ah, from H7200, a prime root, meaning to see, view, visions.

• Chozeh, from H2374, meaning a beholder in vision -- used for prophet, seer, star gazer

In one of his confrontations with prophets not appointed by YHWH, the prophet Jeremiah condemned the false prophets on four grounds, JER. 23:9-39:

1. They are men of immoral character, like those of Sodom and Gomorrah, v. 14.

2. They seek popular acclaim by pronouncements of immunity from all imminent disasters, vs. 17-22.

3. They fail to distinguish their own dreams from the prophetic words of YHWH, vs. 25-29.

4. They are plagiarists who steal from other prophets words allegedly from YHWH, vs. 30-39.

The Apostle Peter warns against false prophets and teachers rising up and introducing destructive heresies, causing some to fall from the faith, 2PE. 2:1-22. In vs. 12-22, he also notes their evilness and destructive influence.

Sadly, it would seem there are some who rise up to teach New Age and Qabalistic practices contrary to the Scriptures prohibiting involvement in the dark arts of the occult. Such practices are likened to idolatry, 1SA. 15:23. When one refuses to obey YHWH, choosing instead to do things that are unScriptural, it as witchcraft, consorting with the Devil. In DEU. 13:6-11, these rebels are to be put away for their sin.

Unlike with false prophets, one must be endowed with the gift of the Holy Spirit to teach the Scriptures with authority, JOHN 14:26. We are exhorted to fight the good fight of faith, resisting those who have been corrupted in their minds, as exhibited by their contentious spirit, 1TI. 6:3-12. Paul further addresses this in GAL. 5:19-24 as he contrasts the works of the flesh and those of the Holy Spirit.

In EPH. 4:11, Paul indicates that the assembly of believers is to be built upon a five-fold ministry comprised of apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, and teachers. Some Bible commentators maintain that the office of apostle was only given to those disciples the Messiah personally selected in the Nazarene Testament (N.T.). Some arrogantly adopt each of these offices for themselves, regardless of whether they have been called for each one.

Although true prophets have been called according to a high standard, they have been known to be in error. Paul confronted Peter, both of whom were apostles and prophets, over separating himself from Gentile believers, GAL. 2:11. Nathan the prophet gave King David incorrect advice in 1CH. 17:1-15, telling him to go forward with building the Temple. Nathan then returned the following day, after receiving a revelation on the matter, to tell David that YHWH did not wish for him to build the Temple. Jonah, also considered a true prophet, told the people of Ninevah that their city would be overthrown in 40 days, JNH. 3:4-10. In this case, the people repented and YHWH postponed the city's destruction.

Therefore, do not expect perfection from the Almighty's true prophets. They can make mistakes too -- but not when making pronouncements in the name of YHWH.

In the case of Balaam, he departed from his office as prophet when he disobeyed YHWH's instructions, evidently enticed by Balak's offer of great wealth, NUM. 22-24. Balaam is looked upon as a prophet of hire and an enemy of YHWH's people, JUDE 11; REV. 2:14-16. Balak sought to bribe Balaam into pronouncing a curse over Israel. But to his chagrin, Balaam instead initially spoke only blessings over Israel.

In NUM. 22:21-35, in the talking donkey incident, Balaam was told to speak only that which YHWH commanded him to speak, lest he be struck down. Despite the incident, it seems that Balaam conveyed to Balak to use heathen women to seduce the Israelite men at Baal-Peor into sexual immorality and pagan idolatry, resulting in a plague infestation that killed 24,000 Israelites, NUM. 25, 31:16.

Balaam too, it seems received judgment from On High. By disobeying YHWH and turning against the Israelites, he sealed his fate. He was struck down in battle against the Israelites, NUM. 31:8. This is what every prophet who turns against the Holy One of Israel can expect.

Such was the case of the Old Prophet of Bethel, 1KG. 13. This crafty renegade prophet caused the "man of Elohim," who himself was appointed to be a prophet, to stumble by lying to him. Because he accepted the old prophet's lie as the truth, he was killed soon thereafter.

"Yea, and all that will live reverently in Yah'shua the Messiah shall suffer persecution. But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived.  But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learned them; And that from a child thou hast known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Yah'shua the Messiah. All scripture is given by inspiration of YHWH, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of YHWH may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works." 1TI. 3:13-17 RNKJV

The Scriptures warn us repeatedly of false prophets, self-serving teachers, and spiritual wolves during these end times. When we encounter them we must expect that they will try to overthrow our faith. Satan himself will appear as a minister of light and his agents as ministers of righteousness in their attempt to turn us from the Narrow Way, 2CO. 11:12-15; 1PE. 5:8-9.

Finally, constantly beware of false prophets, MAT. 7:15-23. Always remain vigilant in the faith, using the Word to prove the spirits, whether they be of YHWH, 1JN. 4:1. Use the Scriptural test of a true prophet to determine whether one speaks as a spokesman for the Almighty to prepare you for things to come -- or for the Devil to mislead you down the road to perdition. Do not allow yourself to be deceived by those who themselves have been deceived by Satan, the Father of Lies.

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"For there are certain men crept in unawares, who were before of old ordained to this condemnation, wicked men, turning the grace of our Elohim into lasciviousness, and denying our only Master and Sovereign, Yah'shua the Messiah." Jude 4

"Study to shew thyself approved unto YHWH, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth."

Confessions of an Abusive Pharisee

Dear beloved fellow believers in Messiah,

I write this letter to all those whom I have wounded through the abuse of my position as your spiritual leader. To what extent I have caused havoc in your life I do not know. Neither will I probably ever know the degree of pain and suffering I have contributed. What I do know is that I have sinned against you and against the Almighty by not showing proper care for the flock He entrusted to me. For that I am so very sorry. I humbly ask for your forgiveness.

"Woe is me for my hurt! My wound is grievous; but I said, 'Truly this is a grief, and I must bear it,"'  Jer. 10:19.

Where should I begin? I never imagined that anything like this would happen. While I fervently attempted to keep others’ sins from entering the front door into the organization, my own sins of pride and self-righteousness were able to enter through the back door undetected. In time, I became obsessed with organizational purity, keeping others from polluting our church with their sins. Meanwhile, I deemed myself more strict and observant that I began to despise others while lifting myself up in pride. In my obsession with maintaining purity, I became an abusive Pharisee, a self-righteous hypocrite.

Over time, I began to set policies that were burdensome and legalistic. While I reveled in maintaining my own elevated standards, I became super critical of anybody who seemed unable to measure up. From week to week, I used the "bully pulpit" to browbeat those of you who needed words of encouragement, not constant condemnations. I told myself that I was doing the Almighty’s Will by publicly correcting and admonishing people as I did. In the process, however, I set myself above the Almighty’s Commandments and determined on my own what was right and wrong. Any dissenters and anyone not in conformance with church policy was made into an example for all of the other members to see. Some of you were placed "on trial" before the congregation before being disfellowshipped so that all could witness the consequences of your purported insubordination.

                                                                                                                  Yours sincerely and contritely,

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The 50 Tell-Tale Signs of a Spiritually Abusive Church were intended as a message of hope, as found in ISA. 61:1, "...he has sent me to bind up the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound...." Quoting from this chapter, our Messiah proclaimed this message, LUKE 4:16-30. Of course, Satan and his servants abhor this proclamation of spiritual liberty. After Yah'shua the Messiah taught this message at the synagogue in Nazareth, the congregation rose up in anger and tried to kill Him. So too do those who have an anti-messiah spirit seek to persecute the contemporary watchmen of YHWH, those who cry aloud over the abuses within the churches. Sadly, there seems to be considerable hatred, even from fellow believers, against anyone who seeks to live according to the  example of the Messiah and preach freedom from bondage to sin.         

As Daniel and his three friends were given Babylonian names while in Babylon, DAN. 1:6-7, the author conversely adopted the Hebraic name "PariYah" (correctly pronounced Pah-ree'-Yah) to signify the escape from our Babylonian culture of confusion, which we have come out of, to our esteemed Israelite heritage, which we have embraced. In that par or per in Hebrew indicates a separation, the author wished to signify that he had separated himself unto Yah. Yah is the shortened, poetic form of the Almighty’s name, YHWH (the personal name of the Almighty, thought to be pronounced "Yahweh;" whereas the more common pronunciation "Jehovah" is known to be in error.)           

According to Strong's Hebrew Lexicon, #6509, parah is a prime root that signifies bearing fruit, or fruitfulness. Thus, in Hebrew, PariYah conveys the meaning of being fruitful unto YHWH. This term appears in one of the most prominent blessings in Judaism: "Baruch ahta Adonai Elohaynu Melech HaOlam boray pahree hagafen" – "Blessed are You, My Sovereign, Our Mighty One, King of the Universe, Who creates the fruit of the vine."          

Much of the interest PariYah developed in spiritual abuse and cultish behaviors comes from being treated as a pariah (as in the mispronunciation of "PariYah") and a despised believer among those who claim to be disciples of the Messiah, contrary to JOHN 13:34-35. Much to his dismay, PariYah has observed that acrimony, bitterness, resentment, and spitefulness are often as common among believers as they are among nonbelievers, if not even worse.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, with his utter abhorrence for hatred among brethren, PariYah has often found himself the target of other believers' hatred. This has caused him considerable grief. In a way, this Web site, written with much retrospective sadness, is like a spiritual autobiography of the mistreatment and abuse suffered at the hands of fellow believers.          

Nevertheless, our Master taught that this could be expected, MAT. 5:10-12; LUKE 6:22; JOHN 15:18; 1JN. 3:13. Described as a "man of sorrows," the Messiah also was "despised and rejected of men," ISA 53:3. Who were the ones who treated Him with hatred? His very own brethren.

While He upbraided the religious authorities of His time for their abusiveness, as in MAT. 23, He also forgave them, as we see in LUKE 23:34. As difficult as it may seem, so too we ought to forgive those who mistreat and abuse us in our spiritual walk, ACTS 7:60.

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Q: The way I see it, if someone is in a cult, they’re there because they want to be there. I say you should just leave them alone. Why bother?

With Corresponding Notes and Commentary

Bailey, Keith M. Servants in Charge. Camp Hill, PA: Christian Publications. 1979. 186 pages. A training guide for elders and deacons. Notable quotes:

• "A hierarchical or totalitarian attitude by a pastor is a contradiction of the true spirit of this office. The pastor  is servant as are all the leaders in (Messiah's) church, he is a member of the body, he is an elder. The pastor-elder assumes his responsibilities with no feelings of superiority."
• "Titus 1:7 says of the overseers to be appointed by Titus that they are not to be "self-willed." Another possible translation of this word is self-pleasing. He is not to be a man whose actions please himself irrespective of others. The elder is a believer who has abandoned "selfishness" in favor of "selflessness." Titus was instructed to seek out for the eldership men who were not quick tempered. The frustrations and pressures of a spiritual leader calls for patience. Fits of temper will mar the Lord's servant and take away his effectiveness. Such uncontrolled temper betrays an inner spiritual need that should be cared to prior to assuming the responsibility of an under-shepherd in (Messiah's) church. Paul also warns about men who are pugnacious. Fighters do not belong in the eldership. Problems are not solved by fighting in the house of (YHWH)."
• "Paul tells Timothy that elders are to be "gentle" and "uncontentious" (1 Tim. 3:3). In the course of his duties, an elder must deal with all kinds of people who need tender, loving care. A man of harsh spirit eliminates himself from such a shepherding ministry." 

Barghusen, Joan D. Cults. San Diego, CA: Lucent Books. 1998. 96 pages. Primarily intended for inquiring youths, this book covers the fundamentals of certain prominent cults and their peculiar beliefs, including what life changes one can expect by joining a cult. Notable quote:

• "Most cults are rigid, authoritarian structures where there is little room for doubt or dissent. Much dissent is suppressed by members themselves, who quickly learn that questions are not appreciated, and those most agreeable to the leader have the most favored treatment or position. Members who ask questions may be harshly punished, and those who do not want to go along with the program may leave or be asked to leave....In matt

Bloomer, George. Authority Abusers: Breaking Free from Spiritual Abuse. New Kensington, PA: Whitaker House. 1995. 158 pages. A look into authority abuse in churches and in the home from a Biblical perspective. Victims are urged to confront the abusiveness and forgive the abuser.

Blue, Ken. Healing Spiritual Abuse: How to Break Free from Bad Church Experiences. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press. 1993. 166 pages. This book takes a Biblical look at the spiritual abuse problem, especially from the vantage point of the Messiah's confrontations with the Pharisees of His day.

Bordovsky, Casey. Fighting Spiritual Abuse. (www.spiritualabuse.org/articles/fighting_abuse.html) The author urges using the Scriptures to oppose spiritual abuse, which is occurring in the spiritual realm as well as the physical. Both the abused and the abuser have been deceived and blinded by a spirit of pride, a spirit of religion, and a controlling spirit. The abused are worshipping a religion and a man, thus committing idolatry. Meanwhile, the abuser is in denial that there is any abuse.

Chrnalogar, Mary Alice. The Language of Enslavement.  (www.geocitiescom/Athens/Delphi/6312.abuse5.html) 1996. Taken from the author's book Twisted Scriptures, a 35-point list is given on how church authority is misused, often by twisting the Scriptures, leading to spiritual abuse.

Dupont, Marc A. Toxic Churches: Restoration from Spiritual Abuse. Grand Rapids, MI: Chosen Books. 2004. 189 pages. The author lists the following "classic" warning signs of a spiritually abusive church:

1. Prevailing attitudes of elitism and/or isolationism.
2. Leaders practice "cursing" or judging, especially against former members
3. Denial of free will and invasion of privacy is prevalent.
4. Leadership is without accountability.
5. There is a hazy boundary between serving the Almighty and serving the leaders.
6. Legalism and condemnations are commonplace.
7. Scapegoating and denial syndrome is characteristic of the leaders.
8. There is a continuous turnover of staff.

Enroth, Ronald M., PhD. Youth, Brainwashing, and the Extremist Cults. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House. 1977. 218 pages. A Christian look at several of the prominent cults that emerged in the 1960s and 1970s with emphasis on why youth are attracted to their unconventional teachings and ways of life.

Galanter, Marc, MD. Cults: Faith, Healing, and Coercion. New York: Oxford University Press, 1989. 230 pages. The author approaches the study of cults from a psychiatric perspective with a focus on charismatic groups, their leaders, and victims. Specific case histories of cultish charismatic groups are reviewed from a scientific sense of curiosity.

Groenveld, Jan. Identifying a Cult. (www.spiritualabuse.org/articles/idencult.html; also www.ex-cult.org/General/identifying-a-cult) This article offers various lists of identifying factors explaining how cults operate. The emphasis is on identifying cults by their behaviors.

Hamilton, Jon. The Spirit of Jezebel. (www.jonhamilton.org/jezebel.htm) A brief article that succinctly explains how the Jezebel spirit operates. Much of what this author writes about the Jezebel spirit is corroborated by Dr. Bree Keyton. Some notable quotes:

• "A Jezebel spirit seeks control through manipulation. It has a deep hatred of true spiritual authority, and uses emotional pressure, witchcraft and obsessive sensuality in its pursuit of power. It uses subtle persuasion to gain influence and get close to those in control. It then uses this position to gradually dominate."
• "Jezebel’s greatest enemy is true spiritual authority. As Jezebel opposed Elijah and Herodias opposed John the Baptist, so Jezebel today opposes righteous authority. In her heart, she despises all moral authority."
• "She is the power behind the rebirth of witchcraft in our culture. She calls to millions of teenagers via popular music and movies, telling them that new age witchcraft will give them power."

• "Jezebel wants to paralyze with fear, condemnation, depression, apathy or whatever it takes until we withdraw. The only answer for those under Jezebel’s attack is perseverance in battle. We must remain on course no matter how long it takes!"

   

Henzel, Ron. They Told Me That If I Left… (www.geocities.com/Athens/Forum/9575/theytold.html) The author draws on his experience as a spiritual abuse victim to review the reasons why victims are too fearful to leave abusive churches. Often, they are warned ahead of time that if they leave, they will backslide spiritually, become corrupt, and burn in hell for their evil deeds. This article pinpoints one of the primary effects of spiritual abuse, namely causing members of abusive groups to fear losing their salvation.

• Abusive leaders love to quote 1JN. 2:19, suggesting that "those who went out from us" are those who leave a specific church or organization. However, perhaps unknown to many victims is that the passage actually deals with those who leave the faith.
• Among the ways in which abusive leaders deter their followers from leaving is to warn that if they leave, they will join up with the enemies of the Most High, i.e. other former members.
• People who leave are often cursed and told that something bad will happened to them. Horror stories are told of what happens to former members as a means to prevent current members from leaving.
• Also, shunning is practiced to extremes, not according to the way it was intended in the Scriptures.
• Notable quote: "Remember, the spiritual abuser tries to frighten you because he is frightened. He lives in constant fear of exposure. He desperately wants to avoid being exposed to outside scrutiny, but he also wants to avoid being discovered as a fraud by his own flock. He dreads the day when they will discover that the emperor has no clothes. Consigning you to the flames (of the Lake of Fire) is his way of trying to bar the doors against any further escape from his control." Victims can take comfort in passages such as 1JN. 4:4-6 and HEB. 13:5b.

Hill, Mark. Characteristics of Abusive Churches. (www.spiritualabuse.org/articles/characteristics.html) Essentially, this article summarizes two of Dr. Ronald Enroth's books on abusive churches. Checklists are given to identify signs of abusiveness and also the actions victims can take to recover from their experiences. To counter the recurrence of spiritual abuse, Dr. Enroth is quoted as saying, "We must strive to cultivate critical, discerning minds if we are to avoid the tragedy of churches that abuse."

Hux, Clete. What Do Churches and Cults Have in Common? (www.believersweb.org/view.cfm?ID=681) The author lists seven characteristics that churches and cults often share alike:

1. Power posturing.
2. Performance preoccupation.
3. Unspoken rules.
4. Lack of balance.
5. Paranoia.
6. Misplaced loyalty.
7. Secretive.

Johnson, David & VanVonderen, Jeff. The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority within the Church. Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers. 1991. 235 pages. Probably the seminal study on spiritual abuse, an all-time classic covering the many aspects of this shameful phenomena. The authors urge victims to address the issues by confronting the leaven, before it gets out of control. They also advise reconnecting with former members for support and recovery in dealing with the anguish and depression that comes from being spiritually abused.

Keyton, Dr. Bree. Jezebel vs. Elijah. San Diego, CA: Black Forest Press. 2002. 216 pages. An in-depth study into the dramatic clash between the end-time spirit of Elijah, prophesied in MAL. 4:5, and its nemesis, the Jezebel spirit, described in REV. 2:20-22. Notable quotes:

• "I was recently consulted and asked to pray for a large worldwide ministry that discovered it was headed by a man with a Jezebel spirit. The leaders under him had become faint-hearted, engulfed with lethargy. Under Jezebel's control they suffered emotional and spiritual abuse, and subsequently languished in condemnation. They were relentlessly brainwashed into believing it was all their own fault, and the constant rain of accusations served to rob them of their sense of identity. Several of these g-dly and passionate men and women were so discouraged they have either quit or are thinking of quitting."
• "A person with a Jezebel spirit has a combination of wicked spirits working together: This person has a controlling spirit, a spirit of seduction, a spirit of slumber, an antichrist spirit, a spirit of whoredoms, a spirit of deception, a spirit of haughtiness and pride, a lying spirit, a spirit of error, covetousness and lusts of the flesh, a spirit of murder, a spirit of witchcraft and divination, and has gone a step further to receive a Jezebel spirit."
• "Jezebel uses familiar spirits to inform her of her opponent's and victim's activities. People with controlling spirits can be brought around, but a person with a true  Jezebel spirit has gone almost too far to repent: She rarely repents! Once she develops a taste for power and blood, she is unwilling to relinquish it."
• "Jezebel walks in dominance, surrounded by bitter envyings and a constant atmosphere of confusion. Jezebel finds it difficult to delegate authority. She gives orders, but won't allow them to be carried out without humiliating the other person involved. Then, she takes back the authority. If she delegates, she retracts it, unable to allow others to function in positions of responsibility. She belittles and gossips, operating in bitter envying and strife."
• "Jezebel uses anger or silence to control. This is witchcraft. Jezebel tries to control pastors and churches. Some pastors have this spirit, and through it they seek to control their congregations. Some Jezebels manipulate from behind the scenes while others are blatant and in your face. Jezebel won't get along with anyone she can't dominate. When in the presence of a Jezebel spirit, one fervently wishes to be elsewhere. Sometimes a horrible creepy-crawly sensation permeates the atmosphere. When leaving, one just wants to take a shower. Yuk!"
• "The amazing result is that even though Jezebel's followers wander aimlessly about, extolling the greatness of their leader, believing that their leader's words are golden and straight from (YHWH's) mouth (a follower actually said this to me), declaring that their leader has the one true message for their area or for this time, they, themselves are usually fraught with failure and despair."

Keyton, Dr. Bree. Stripes, Nails, Thorns, and the Blood: A Manual for Spiritual Warfare, Healing and Deliverance. (2nd Edition) San Diego, CA: Black Forest Press. 2001. 248 pages. An excellent manual for deliverance from demonic influence and defeating the Devil's strongholds. Notable quotes from Chapter 26, titled "The Controlling Spirit":

• "When people subject themselves to someone with a controlling spirit, they place themselves under enslavement to a demon. The controller is a manipulator and must use witchcraft to achieve his ends. Some religious leaders seek to control "their" flocks by demanding a performance level that puts the people into deep bondage. These leaders are being blinded by fear of the loss of control of finances, or fear of not enough finances (which is unbelief), or fear that there won't be enough workers. Some are motivated by such pride that they think the sheep cannot follow or hear from (YHWH) on their own."
• "Some leaders fear that the people will get into sin unless they are constantly condemning them and putting them under bondage. The message of grace is never preached, because it is considered dangerous. They behave as if the people are their personal property, not adequately encouraging the gifts, quenching the moving of the Holy Spirit through the people."
• "The controller may operate with religious fanaticism. Rigid or finicky demands on housekeeping are common. Harsh treatment of the children is often observed. The tyrannical church leader is extreme in his rejection of other leaders or churches. Those who follow him must exhibit his same views or be fired. He will usually be hard to work with, demanding and unreasonable on certain issues. The controller will have a high turnover in personnel on the job and in the church. The controller may manipulate by using body language, yelling, cursing, pouting, threatening physically or emotionally, or through blackmail. These are all forms of witchcraft. The controller may even pray controlling prayers, which are witchcraft prayers."
•  "Often, the person with a controlling spirit is motivated by fear. If he lets go, he fears chaos, and suffers from lack of trust in (YHWH) to perform His Word. Therefore, the controller suffers from doubt and unbelief in religious and personal matters. The pastor with a controlling spirit is afraid the people won't give enough, or afraid they might run off to another church and stay."
• "When a person controls others it is witchcraft. (YHWH) specifically states in His Word that if a person wishes to be great in his kingdom he must be willing to serve others, not lord it over them."
• "Humility is the key to great leadership. One who yells and demands that others submit is not leading according to biblical standards. Following someone who manifests this behavior is, in reality, following a demon that is just using the person. People under this kind of leadership may be stressed, sick (physically or emotionally), fearful and deeply wounded. The likelihood that they will take up offenses and be bitter is very high."
• "The doctrine of the Nicolaitans is an abomination to the (Almighty). They lorded it over the flock and exalted themselves, forcing the people to serve them....A correct paradigm for true (saintly) leadership of any kind, whether it is in the church, home or workplace, is not a standard pyramid with the leader at the top demanding to be served, abusing his position and authority, with the congregation, or family, at the bottom. (YHWH's) model reveals that the pyramid should be reversed, with the point down: (YHWH's) people at the wide top, and the leadership at the bottom serving the people, is His righteous design."
• "Some controlling behaviors include, but are not limited to: whining, complaining, anger, violence, suspiciousness, playing sick, demanding, shouting, cursing, lying, pouting, slamming things, murmuring, threatening, stubbornness, loud talking, manipulation, micro-managing, inability to delegate, selfishness, self-centeredness, inability to see from others point-of-view, etc."  

Kimball, Charles. When Religion Becomes Evil. San Francisco: Harper Collins. 2002. 240 pages. This book offers an insightful look at the nature of religious zealotry, especially in view of the international situation since the terrorist acts of Sep. 11, 2001, attributed to religious extremists. Notable quotes:

• "A propensity toward evil within religious communities always provides warning signs. Certain obvious attitudes and actions can serve as harbingers of impending harmful or malevolent behavior. In what follows I present five clear signals of danger, providing examples of each, in the belief that early detection is the critical first step in forestalling disaster."
• "Adhering strictly to particular interpretations of truth claims allows people to feel justified in holding all kinds of attitudes and behaviors, including beliefs and actions that contradict well-known teachings of their religion. When zealous and devout adherents elevate the teachings and beliefs of their tradition to the level of absolute truth claims, they open a door to the possibility that their religion will become evil. As we will observe in the chapters that follow, people armed with absolute truth claims are closely linked to violent extremism, charismatic leaders, and various justifications for acts otherwise understood to be unacceptable."
• "This is the pivotal point at which religion often becomes evil. Authentic religion engages the intellect as people wrestle with the mystery of existence and the challenges of living in an imperfect world. Conversely, blind obedience is a sure sign of corrupt religion. Beware of any religious movement that seeks to limit the intellectual freedom and individual integrity of its adherents. When individual believers abdicate personal responsibility and yield to the authority of a charismatic leader or become enslaved to particular ideas or teachings, religion can easily become the framework for violence and destruction."
• "Dangers abound when people take direction uncritically from religious authorities. And as we have observed...there is no shortage of self-appointed leaders who are confident they have all the answers; more than a few regularly claim to speak for G-d. While we have focused on highly visible figures, the same perilous dynamic is operating wherever a religious leader has excessive power and few restraints."
• "Any religious group that largely withdraws from society needs to ensure that people can think and make important decisions for themselves. A segregated group in which the thinking and critical decisions reside with one or a few people, particularly when apocalyptic teaching is involved, is a disaster waiting to happen."
• "Blind obedience is a sure sign of trouble. The likelihood of religion becoming evil is greatly diminished when there is freedom for individual thinking and when honest inquiry is encouraged."
• "The end goal of protecting or defending a key component of religion is often used to justify any means necessary. The most obvious sign of this corruption is visible when compassionate and constructive relationships with others are discarded."

Lalich, Janja & Tobias, Madeleine. Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships. Berkeley, CA: Bay Tree Publishing. 2006. 372 pages. A comprehensive examination of the nature of cults and the types of abuse suffered within them. Of special interest may be the section on the personality disorders common in cult leaders. Summarized here is the 15-point checklist of sociopathic characteristics found in some cult leaders:

1. Glibness and Superficial Charm.
2. Manipulative and Conning.
3. Grandiose Sense of Self.
4. Pathological Lying.
5. Lack of Remorse, Shame, and Guilt.
6. Shallow Emotions.
7. Incapacity for Love.
8. Need for Stimulation.
9. Callousness and Lack of Empathy.
10. Poor Behavior Controls and Impulsive Nature.
11. Early Behavior Problems and Juvenile Delinquency
12. Irresponsibility and Unreliability
13. Promiscuous Sexual Behavior and Infidelity
14. Lack of Realistic Life Plan and Parasitic Lifestyle
15. Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility.

Lambert, Steven, ThD. The Invalidity of the Office of "Bishop." (www.slm.org/trtdigst/articles/bishops.html) Excerpted from the author's book Charismatic Connection. The author argues that the Church was to be built on Apostolic authority. However, it succumbed to the Nicolaitan heresy, defined as "conquering the laity." This heresy produced the pyramidal papal system, resulting in recurring spiritual abusiveness. Dr. Lambert asserts that a bishop, defined as an "overseer," was simply a different term for the same position as an elder or shepherd in the early church. The author cites 1CO. 12:28; MAT. 10:1-2; EPH. 2:19-20; 2PE. 2:19; REV. 2:2-15 in defense. Notable quote:

• "Thus, to summarize the point, when someone takes upon himself, or has conferred upon him, the purported title of "bishop," he is engaging in modern-day Nicolaitanism, the deeds and doctrines (Messiah) explicitly stated He "hated." He (the bishop) is perpetrating a patently ungodly and unscriptural form of predomination over fellows that certainly is not reflective of the model of servanthood ministries we are called to..."

Lambert, Steven, ThD. The Signs of Spiritual Abuse. (www.slm.org/trtdigst/articles/abuse.html) Excerpted from the author's book Charismatic Connection. A list of 33 signs of spiritual abuse is given.

Lambert, Steven, ThD. What is "Hyper-Authoritarianism?". (www.slm.org/trtdigst/articles/whatis.html) Excerpted from the author's book Charismatic Connection. A list of 15 signs of excessive authoritarianism is given with special attention to 2TI. 3:1-9.

Langone, Michael D., PhD. Clinical Update on Cults. (www.psychiatrictimes.com/p960714.html) 1996. The editor of Cultic Studies Journal, Dr. Langone is considered one of the foremost authorities on cult studies.

Larson, Bob. Larson’s Book of World Religions and Alternative Spirituality. All the Facts about Hundreds of Cults. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers. 2004. 565 pages. Primarily a doctrinal, rather than behavior, observation of various cultish groups based on the groups’ own publications and outside writers’ reports. While the book provides a considerable amount of useful information, its subtitle ("All the Facts...") is a gross and egregious overstatement.

Lesser, Charles. Is Your Church Free from Cultic Tendencies? (www.spiritualabuse.org/articles/checklist.html) Published by the Spiritual Counterfeits Project in 1991, this is a 37-point checklist showing the signs to look for when churches become cultish.

Let Us Reason Ministries (author unnamed). How to Recognize If You Are in a Cult Group. (www.letusreason.org/cults.htm) This article explores cultish behavior in six sections:

1. Signs of Cult Behavior.
2. Things to Be Aware of.
3. What to do When Confronted to Join.
4. Know the Rights You Have.
5. Where Do All the People in Cults Come From?
6. Basic Patterns or Characteristics of Cults.

Lewis, James R. Cults (2nd Ed.). Santa Barbara, CA: ABC-CLIO, Inc. 2005. 323 pages. This reference book gives the following warning signs about Bible-based cultish groups:

1. The organization is willing to place itself above the law.
2. The leadership dictates rather than suggests important aspects of their followers lives (micromangement).
3. The leader sets forth ethical guidelines, but he is exempt (hypocrisy).
4. The group is preparing to fight the Armageddon conflict against other people (Doomsdayist).
5. The leader makes statements he knows to be false and knowingly deceives outsiders.
6. The group is isolated or partially isolated from society at large.

Lewis, James R. Cults in America. Santa Barbara, CA: ABC-CLIO, Inc. 1998. 232 pages. A reference guide to various cultish groups and cult issues in the U.S.

McCann, Vincent. Are You the Victim of Mind Control? (www.spotlightministries.org.uk/mctract.htm) 2003. This article provides a 15-point list of signs to determine whether one has been mind controlled by a cultish group.

Peck, M. Scott, MD. People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil. New York: Touchstone. 1983. 269 pages. In this book, a psychiatrist examined the subject of human evil and its manifestation in the world of religion -- with comparisons to the analogy of "wolves dressed in sheep's clothing." Much of this evil comes from leaders who are unwilling to address their own sins but instead abuse their followers vicariously for the same sins. (Excerpts from this book are available at www.hwarmstrong.com/people.htm.) Notable quotes:

• "The evil in this world is committed by the spiritual fat cats, by the Pharisees of our own day, the self-righteous who think they are without sin because they are unwilling to suffer the discomfort of significant self-examination."
• "A predominant characteristic, however, of the behavior of those I call evil is scapegoating. Because in their hearts they consider themselves above reproach, they must lash out at anyone who does reproach them. They sacrifice others to preserve their own self-image of perfection."
• "As has been noted, it is a characteristic of those who are evil to judge others as evil. Unable to acknowledge their own imperfection, they must explain away their flaws by blaming others. And, if necessary, they will even destroy others in the name of righteousness."

Porterfield, Kay Marie. Straight Talk about Cults. New York: Facts on File. 1995. 144 pages. Written apparently as a warning to youths. The author exposes recruiting techniques, looks at a history of cults in the US, and describes those who are most likely to be victimized by cults. Those who tend to be drawn most to cults are those in some personal transition, those dealing with loneliness, and those searching for greater meaning in their lives. Cults are defined as groups that are centered on following a charismatic leader, are authoritarian in nature, and are rigid in their rules.

Prince, Derek. Blessings and Curses. Grand Rapids, MI: Chosen Books. 2003. 63 pages. An brief but excellent overview of this much neglected subject.

Schnoebelen, William and Sharon. Blood on the Doorposts: An Advanced Course in Spiritual Warfare. Ontario, CA: Chick Publications. 1994. 338 pages. Written from a conservative Bible-believing perspective, this book presents the identifying factors of demonic influence and how to overcome it and also set those in bondage free.

Schnoebelen, William and Sharon. Lucifer Dethroned, A True Story. Ontario, CA: Chick Publications. 1993. 349 pages. The Schnoebelens tell their story of deliverance from the depths of demonic occultism to becoming ardent commandment-keeping believers in Almighty YHWH and Messiah Yah'shua and the Biblical message of hope. The Schnoebelens now have their own Messianic-oriented deliverance ministry to help many of those who are in bondage to Satanic systems, Masonry, Mormonism, Wicca, and religious cults.

Singer, Dr. Margaret Thaler. Excerpts from "Cults in Our Midst."  (www.factnet.org/singer/htm), a book co-written with cult studies pioneers Robert Jay Lifton and Janja Lalich.

• Dr. Singer compares being in a cult with George Orwell's negative utopia depicted in his book 1984: "The wisdom of the ages is that most manipulation is subtle and covert. When Orwell drew on this wisdom, he envisioned the evolution of an insidious but successful mind and opinion manipulator. He would appear as a smiling, seemingly beneficent Big Brother. But instead of one Big Brother, we see hordes of Big Brothers in the world today. Many of them are cult leaders."

Snow, Robert L. Deadly Cults: The Crimes of True Believers. Westport, CT: Praeger Publishers. 2003. 226 pages. Several examples of dangerous cults are given. The author looks at religious cults as the result of founders who believe themselves to be personally guided by the Almighty, or acting as His representative on earth. Among their other predominant characteristics is the claim that cult leaders make that they have super abilities. Thus, they think of themselves as being above the law.

Streiker, Lowell D. Mind Bending: Brainwashing Cults and Deprogramming in the '80s. Garden City, NY: Doubleday & Co, Inc. 1984. 218 pages. A fascinating look at the cult phenomena from the perspective of a Jewish-Christian deprogrammer. Cults are defined as meeting three criteria:

1. "A cult is a nontraditional religious group based upon the teachings of an authoritarian leader. A single individual is the sole source of what the group believes and of the rules that govern daily behavior."
2. "A cult is a highly structured, strictly disciplined group that demands the total time, dedication, and resources of its members. Further, a cult has the means to enforce its demands."
3. "A cult sees itself as the only possessor of the truth and regards those outside the cult as unsaved, unenlightened, unspiritual, and hostile to the truth."

• Notable quote: "Cults act as though they are above the law. They believe they are only accountable to a "higher authority." Most cults believe that their leader is G-d, the messiah, or G-d's only authorized spokesman. Each group believes that it alone has the truth, that it is destined to rule the world, and that it is furthering the divine plan by deceiving, stealing, defrauding, and manipulating for its purposes. The moral landscape of cult mentality has only one fixed point of reference: The ends justify the means."

Waite, Robert G. L. The Psychopathic G-d, Adolf Hitler. New York: Basic Books, Inc. 1977. 556 pages. A captivating examination of "history's foremost example of the pathological personality in power." This book is included here because Hitler's psychopathic example is probably reflected by many contemporary cult leaders, whose obsessive and anti-social behaviors can likely be explained by unresolved trauma in their lives, resulting in their need to abuse and control others. Notable quote:

• "The question of Hitler's latent homosexuality can also be approached indirectly. It can be stated with some confidence that Hitler must have had latent homosexual tendencies because he showed clear indications of paranoia. This does not mean that all homosexuals are paranoid, but it does mean that all paranoids have fears of homosexuality. The direct connection between homosexuality and paranoia was first noticed by Freud, who concluded that paranoia invariably arises from an attempt to subdue an unduly powerful homosexual wish. A distinguished American psychiatrist, Robert P. Knight, after years of research on...homosexuality, concluded that "no psychiatric theory...rests on firmer foundation or has been less frequently attacked by critics of Freud" than the assertion that "an intense homosexual conflict is never absent in a male paranoic...""  

What Is a Cult? (www.believersweb.org/view.cfm?ID=620) 2003. Author unnamed. An 11-point checklist is given of cult indicators, including: a) a leader who claims to the Almighty's one true spokesman on earth, b) a group that claims it "is the only true way to perfection," and c) an understanding that one cannot leave or will face being cut off completely from the cult.

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I deeply regret if this site has somehow offended any fellow spiritual abuse victims. That certainly was not intended. However, if it has offended any spiritual abuse perpetrators, hopefully it will also move them to reconsider their actions and the devastating effects they have on others. What will it take to bring them to repentance?

So there is no misunderstanding, I urge everyone, myself included, who is a victim of spiritual abuse to forgive their abusers and let go of the hurtful things they have done to you. Let them know that you do not hate them for their actions, but that you have love for them, as the Messiah commanded us to show toward our enemies, MAT. 5:44; LUKE 6:27-38.

Perhaps in one way or another we all bear the scars of being hated or unloved. For some, I imagine it is a difficult burden to bear. I truly understand your pain, but before you can be fully healed of it, you must let go of all that baggage. You are that much stronger for having borne it.

The justification of hatred toward others is what is at the heart of spiritual abuse. If left unchallenged, an abusive cult or worse, a hate group, will likely result. This Web site maintains that hatred is the hallmark of spiritual abuse. Abuse thrives in churches and congregations where hatred toward others is tolerated or encouraged. In view of what the Bible says, how can a believer defend hating his neighbor in his heart?

If one cannot extend love to His brother, he cannot love the Almighty, LEV. 19:17-18; 1JN. 4:19-21. In such a hateful state, that person has in effect rejected the Law, the Prophets, and the Messiah -- essentially the entire message of the Bible, MAT. 22:37-40. Such a one should be especially concerned for his salvation.

Those churches that embrace a spirit of hatred toward others have left the truth for  a spirit of anti-Messiah (or AntiChrist), 1JN. 2:18-26. If you are in such a church now, call upon the Almighty to show you a way of escape, 1CO. 10:13.

I trust that this site has been helpful to you. Now that you know what to look for, use the Scriptures to stop the abuse before it spreads. Confront those who abuse others and demand that they stop their abusive behaviors immediately. Pray that the Almighty will give you, like the prophet Jonah, the words that you need to bring them to humble repentance, while there is still time.  - SPD*

"And even now the ax is laid to the root of the trees. Therefore every tree which does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire," Matthew 3:10